"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How Would You Handle This?

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Ok, here's a weird situation for you DJers:

I was walking through the bar on Sat. night when I passed a semicircular booth full of girls. One was standing up, and she tells me "stop." I go, "Ok, what do you want."

"Dance."

"What do you mean, dance?"

"Dance for us" (steps back, putting me at center stage)

"F*ck you, you dance. Why the hell would I dance for you?"

"Fine, you're worthless. Get out of here."

Pretty interesting, eh? The funny thing is that I deal with mean/manipulative women on a regular basis, and it's not like I walk around asking for it. I really wonder, am I setting off some trigger in these women? Because the manipulation NEVER works. Maybe the packaging doesn't match the product.

Your thoughts, please.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ignore what she said and pretend she just said 'hi' to you.

then proceed to work the table as you would any other table of hot girls.
 

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"Dance."

"What do you mean, dance?"

"Dance for us" (steps back, putting me at center stage)

****ed eyebrow

"And you're going to motivate me... how?"
 

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poohead said:
ignore what she said and pretend she just said 'hi' to you.

then proceed to work the table as you would any other table of hot girls.
Oh believe me, these weren't worth it. MAJOR attitudes, and nowhere near hot enough to make up for them.
 
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