You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Well yeah, I'm not proud of that.OP,
It’s cool and all that you slay, but having less than $10k in your 30’s is not something to be proud of.
The majority of the US can't come up with an unexpected expense of $400.Well yeah, I'm not proud of that.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm not sure whether you read the more recent posts beyond the OP, but the consideration right now is mostly towards studio/1BR apartments around Claymont, Chester, or Philadelphia (which would be most ideal if I could get my boss to agree to remote work, which I somewhat doubt).Personally I would say if you have a non minimum wage full time job and you can't afford to live on your own then you simply can't afford to live in that city or location.
That's the cold hard truth.
Trying to circumvent this by having roommates or multiple roommates doesn't change that fact.
Either get a better paying job/career so you can afford to live there or look into moving somewhere else that is more affordable and look into transferring or working in the same industry there.
What you are trying to do is not sustainable.
This is the number one reason so many Americans are in such bad financial shape. Because they try to choose where they want to live without any regard to whether they are able to afford it or not.
And if you are living in a city that suddenly has skyrocketed up in cost over the last decade as more people move there, and find yourself in this situation then guess what?
You can no longer afford to live there. Period.
The same rules apply.
You are asking for an answer to the wrong question.
Short answer: No, and I graduated with a degree in behavioral health and nutrition.By the way, is your career in a good path? What did you graduate university in?
Some people were laid off from my company today, and some of them had recently been applying for mortgages before they were laid off.
But I mean, scared money makes no money.