Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well yeah, I'm not proud of that.OP,
It’s cool and all that you slay, but having less than $10k in your 30’s is not something to be proud of.
The majority of the US can't come up with an unexpected expense of $400.Well yeah, I'm not proud of that.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm not sure whether you read the more recent posts beyond the OP, but the consideration right now is mostly towards studio/1BR apartments around Claymont, Chester, or Philadelphia (which would be most ideal if I could get my boss to agree to remote work, which I somewhat doubt).Personally I would say if you have a non minimum wage full time job and you can't afford to live on your own then you simply can't afford to live in that city or location.
That's the cold hard truth.
Trying to circumvent this by having roommates or multiple roommates doesn't change that fact.
Either get a better paying job/career so you can afford to live there or look into moving somewhere else that is more affordable and look into transferring or working in the same industry there.
What you are trying to do is not sustainable.
This is the number one reason so many Americans are in such bad financial shape. Because they try to choose where they want to live without any regard to whether they are able to afford it or not.
And if you are living in a city that suddenly has skyrocketed up in cost over the last decade as more people move there, and find yourself in this situation then guess what?
You can no longer afford to live there. Period.
The same rules apply.
You are asking for an answer to the wrong question.
Short answer: No, and I graduated with a degree in behavioral health and nutrition.By the way, is your career in a good path? What did you graduate university in?
Some people were laid off from my company today, and some of them had recently been applying for mortgages before they were laid off.
But I mean, scared money makes no money.