You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well yeah, I'm not proud of that.OP,
It’s cool and all that you slay, but having less than $10k in your 30’s is not something to be proud of.
The majority of the US can't come up with an unexpected expense of $400.Well yeah, I'm not proud of that.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'm not sure whether you read the more recent posts beyond the OP, but the consideration right now is mostly towards studio/1BR apartments around Claymont, Chester, or Philadelphia (which would be most ideal if I could get my boss to agree to remote work, which I somewhat doubt).Personally I would say if you have a non minimum wage full time job and you can't afford to live on your own then you simply can't afford to live in that city or location.
That's the cold hard truth.
Trying to circumvent this by having roommates or multiple roommates doesn't change that fact.
Either get a better paying job/career so you can afford to live there or look into moving somewhere else that is more affordable and look into transferring or working in the same industry there.
What you are trying to do is not sustainable.
This is the number one reason so many Americans are in such bad financial shape. Because they try to choose where they want to live without any regard to whether they are able to afford it or not.
And if you are living in a city that suddenly has skyrocketed up in cost over the last decade as more people move there, and find yourself in this situation then guess what?
You can no longer afford to live there. Period.
The same rules apply.
You are asking for an answer to the wrong question.
Short answer: No, and I graduated with a degree in behavioral health and nutrition.By the way, is your career in a good path? What did you graduate university in?
Some people were laid off from my company today, and some of them had recently been applying for mortgages before they were laid off.
But I mean, scared money makes no money.