You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well yeah, I'm not proud of that.OP,
It’s cool and all that you slay, but having less than $10k in your 30’s is not something to be proud of.
The majority of the US can't come up with an unexpected expense of $400.Well yeah, I'm not proud of that.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm not sure whether you read the more recent posts beyond the OP, but the consideration right now is mostly towards studio/1BR apartments around Claymont, Chester, or Philadelphia (which would be most ideal if I could get my boss to agree to remote work, which I somewhat doubt).Personally I would say if you have a non minimum wage full time job and you can't afford to live on your own then you simply can't afford to live in that city or location.
That's the cold hard truth.
Trying to circumvent this by having roommates or multiple roommates doesn't change that fact.
Either get a better paying job/career so you can afford to live there or look into moving somewhere else that is more affordable and look into transferring or working in the same industry there.
What you are trying to do is not sustainable.
This is the number one reason so many Americans are in such bad financial shape. Because they try to choose where they want to live without any regard to whether they are able to afford it or not.
And if you are living in a city that suddenly has skyrocketed up in cost over the last decade as more people move there, and find yourself in this situation then guess what?
You can no longer afford to live there. Period.
The same rules apply.
You are asking for an answer to the wrong question.
Short answer: No, and I graduated with a degree in behavioral health and nutrition.By the way, is your career in a good path? What did you graduate university in?
Some people were laid off from my company today, and some of them had recently been applying for mortgages before they were laid off.
But I mean, scared money makes no money.