BongDuy
Master Don Juan
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
how would you approach women at the beach?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
IKO69
Master Don Juan
Like any other place. You wait for choosing signals and then approach.
If you are feeling more bold, wait for a situation in which you can start up a friendly conversation and then gauge her interest. For example say there is a food/drink stand nearby and you both are in line, start a convo.
If you are feeling more bold, wait for a situation in which you can start up a friendly conversation and then gauge her interest. For example say there is a food/drink stand nearby and you both are in line, start a convo.
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
what about out in the water? what if they're with other guys as well?
heres a typical scenario:
me and my friends throw a football around in the ocean and my friend is a terrible thrower, so he throws it wildly and it hits next to a group of girls only. how could i have a convo with them?
heres a typical scenario:
me and my friends throw a football around in the ocean and my friend is a terrible thrower, so he throws it wildly and it hits next to a group of girls only. how could i have a convo with them?
scrouds
Master Don Juan
That's awfully nice of your friend. "Wanna play?" ...could work
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
wow haha so simple but i never thought of it. what if she says "no thank you" should i just forget about them or try to say something else?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
LinkinParkROX
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Just forget about them. Dude...
You're busy having fun with your mates, their loss.
You're busy having fun with your mates, their loss.
everywomanshero
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This has happened a few times accidently. Once the woman was sitting at the waters edge and I just ploped down and started talking to her about bull****, ended up finding out she was down with her gf and her husband didn't come (green light), and I was able to meet up with her later on. Another time, some guy came up and said the girl liked me lol, so I went over and talked to her. She had a great body but the face wasn't too good, o well it was an easy one so what the hell. Women are definitely open to meeting a guy on the beach and you don't need any fancy story for this. Maybe I should go to the beach more often come to think of it
ALPHAROMEO
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Foot In The Door
have u heard of th FOOT IN THE DOOR tchni?
you ask her to look after your bag while u go for a dip
you come bacK HOPEFULLY thank her and get a convo going
check out FREEDMAN FRAZER " THE FOOT IN THE DOOR TECHNI "GOOGLE
you ask for a small favor she ll be much more enclined to be friendly after that ( CHECK OUT cognitive dissonance LEON FEISTINGER
have u heard of th FOOT IN THE DOOR tchni?
you ask her to look after your bag while u go for a dip
you come bacK HOPEFULLY thank her and get a convo going
check out FREEDMAN FRAZER " THE FOOT IN THE DOOR TECHNI "GOOGLE
you ask for a small favor she ll be much more enclined to be friendly after that ( CHECK OUT cognitive dissonance LEON FEISTINGER
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
dont you think thats a bit weird? lol i can imagine a girl asking for you to watch her bag, but when i go to the beach i usually never have much on me because its all in the car.
I guess ill just walk up to them and just start a convo somehow. haha
I guess ill just walk up to them and just start a convo somehow. haha
Havent posted here since march!
But, I made improvement, been learning alot, and improved in the game, so my posts here are more than time-wasting and keyboard jockeying. I can actually give advice now.
Like IKO said, wait for choosing signs.. But, don't just wait, be aware of your surroundings, have your mind and eyes where they should be. If you do that, you will give off a good vibe as wel as pick up choosing signals.
But, I made improvement, been learning alot, and improved in the game, so my posts here are more than time-wasting and keyboard jockeying. I can actually give advice now.
Like IKO said, wait for choosing signs.. But, don't just wait, be aware of your surroundings, have your mind and eyes where they should be. If you do that, you will give off a good vibe as wel as pick up choosing signals.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
DJVladdy said:
Im an asian dude, so im pretty short. Im not lean or cut, i have a good balance of muscle and "fat", so i dont look like a stick, nor do i look like a cake.
although i am trying to slim up so i can have some abs.