BongDuy
Master Don Juan
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
how would you approach women at the beach?
- Thread starter BongDuy
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
IKO69
Master Don Juan
Like any other place. You wait for choosing signals and then approach.
If you are feeling more bold, wait for a situation in which you can start up a friendly conversation and then gauge her interest. For example say there is a food/drink stand nearby and you both are in line, start a convo.
If you are feeling more bold, wait for a situation in which you can start up a friendly conversation and then gauge her interest. For example say there is a food/drink stand nearby and you both are in line, start a convo.
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
what about out in the water? what if they're with other guys as well?
heres a typical scenario:
me and my friends throw a football around in the ocean and my friend is a terrible thrower, so he throws it wildly and it hits next to a group of girls only. how could i have a convo with them?
heres a typical scenario:
me and my friends throw a football around in the ocean and my friend is a terrible thrower, so he throws it wildly and it hits next to a group of girls only. how could i have a convo with them?
scrouds
Master Don Juan
That's awfully nice of your friend. "Wanna play?" ...could work
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
wow haha so simple but i never thought of it. what if she says "no thank you" should i just forget about them or try to say something else?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
LinkinParkROX
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Just forget about them. Dude...
You're busy having fun with your mates, their loss.
You're busy having fun with your mates, their loss.
everywomanshero
Master Don Juan
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This has happened a few times accidently. Once the woman was sitting at the waters edge and I just ploped down and started talking to her about bull****, ended up finding out she was down with her gf and her husband didn't come (green light), and I was able to meet up with her later on. Another time, some guy came up and said the girl liked me lol, so I went over and talked to her. She had a great body but the face wasn't too good, o well it was an easy one so what the hell. Women are definitely open to meeting a guy on the beach and you don't need any fancy story for this. Maybe I should go to the beach more often come to think of it
ALPHAROMEO
Banned
Foot In The Door
have u heard of th FOOT IN THE DOOR tchni?
you ask her to look after your bag while u go for a dip
you come bacK HOPEFULLY thank her and get a convo going
check out FREEDMAN FRAZER " THE FOOT IN THE DOOR TECHNI "GOOGLE
you ask for a small favor she ll be much more enclined to be friendly after that ( CHECK OUT cognitive dissonance LEON FEISTINGER
have u heard of th FOOT IN THE DOOR tchni?
you ask her to look after your bag while u go for a dip
you come bacK HOPEFULLY thank her and get a convo going
check out FREEDMAN FRAZER " THE FOOT IN THE DOOR TECHNI "GOOGLE
you ask for a small favor she ll be much more enclined to be friendly after that ( CHECK OUT cognitive dissonance LEON FEISTINGER
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
dont you think thats a bit weird? lol i can imagine a girl asking for you to watch her bag, but when i go to the beach i usually never have much on me because its all in the car.
I guess ill just walk up to them and just start a convo somehow. haha
I guess ill just walk up to them and just start a convo somehow. haha
Havent posted here since march!
But, I made improvement, been learning alot, and improved in the game, so my posts here are more than time-wasting and keyboard jockeying. I can actually give advice now.
Like IKO said, wait for choosing signs.. But, don't just wait, be aware of your surroundings, have your mind and eyes where they should be. If you do that, you will give off a good vibe as wel as pick up choosing signals.
But, I made improvement, been learning alot, and improved in the game, so my posts here are more than time-wasting and keyboard jockeying. I can actually give advice now.
Like IKO said, wait for choosing signs.. But, don't just wait, be aware of your surroundings, have your mind and eyes where they should be. If you do that, you will give off a good vibe as wel as pick up choosing signals.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
DJVladdy said:
Im an asian dude, so im pretty short. Im not lean or cut, i have a good balance of muscle and "fat", so i dont look like a stick, nor do i look like a cake.
although i am trying to slim up so i can have some abs.