BongDuy
Master Don Juan
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how would you approach women at the beach?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
IKO69
Master Don Juan
Like any other place. You wait for choosing signals and then approach.
If you are feeling more bold, wait for a situation in which you can start up a friendly conversation and then gauge her interest. For example say there is a food/drink stand nearby and you both are in line, start a convo.
If you are feeling more bold, wait for a situation in which you can start up a friendly conversation and then gauge her interest. For example say there is a food/drink stand nearby and you both are in line, start a convo.
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
what about out in the water? what if they're with other guys as well?
heres a typical scenario:
me and my friends throw a football around in the ocean and my friend is a terrible thrower, so he throws it wildly and it hits next to a group of girls only. how could i have a convo with them?
heres a typical scenario:
me and my friends throw a football around in the ocean and my friend is a terrible thrower, so he throws it wildly and it hits next to a group of girls only. how could i have a convo with them?
scrouds
Master Don Juan
That's awfully nice of your friend. "Wanna play?" ...could work
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
wow haha so simple but i never thought of it. what if she says "no thank you" should i just forget about them or try to say something else?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LinkinParkROX
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Just forget about them. Dude...
You're busy having fun with your mates, their loss.
You're busy having fun with your mates, their loss.
everywomanshero
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This has happened a few times accidently. Once the woman was sitting at the waters edge and I just ploped down and started talking to her about bull****, ended up finding out she was down with her gf and her husband didn't come (green light), and I was able to meet up with her later on. Another time, some guy came up and said the girl liked me lol, so I went over and talked to her. She had a great body but the face wasn't too good, o well it was an easy one so what the hell. Women are definitely open to meeting a guy on the beach and you don't need any fancy story for this. Maybe I should go to the beach more often come to think of it
ALPHAROMEO
Banned
Foot In The Door
have u heard of th FOOT IN THE DOOR tchni?
you ask her to look after your bag while u go for a dip
you come bacK HOPEFULLY thank her and get a convo going
check out FREEDMAN FRAZER " THE FOOT IN THE DOOR TECHNI "GOOGLE
you ask for a small favor she ll be much more enclined to be friendly after that ( CHECK OUT cognitive dissonance LEON FEISTINGER
have u heard of th FOOT IN THE DOOR tchni?
you ask her to look after your bag while u go for a dip
you come bacK HOPEFULLY thank her and get a convo going
check out FREEDMAN FRAZER " THE FOOT IN THE DOOR TECHNI "GOOGLE
you ask for a small favor she ll be much more enclined to be friendly after that ( CHECK OUT cognitive dissonance LEON FEISTINGER
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
dont you think thats a bit weird? lol i can imagine a girl asking for you to watch her bag, but when i go to the beach i usually never have much on me because its all in the car.
I guess ill just walk up to them and just start a convo somehow. haha
I guess ill just walk up to them and just start a convo somehow. haha
Havent posted here since march!
But, I made improvement, been learning alot, and improved in the game, so my posts here are more than time-wasting and keyboard jockeying. I can actually give advice now.
Like IKO said, wait for choosing signs.. But, don't just wait, be aware of your surroundings, have your mind and eyes where they should be. If you do that, you will give off a good vibe as wel as pick up choosing signals.
But, I made improvement, been learning alot, and improved in the game, so my posts here are more than time-wasting and keyboard jockeying. I can actually give advice now.
Like IKO said, wait for choosing signs.. But, don't just wait, be aware of your surroundings, have your mind and eyes where they should be. If you do that, you will give off a good vibe as wel as pick up choosing signals.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
BongDuy
Master Don Juan
DJVladdy said:
Im an asian dude, so im pretty short. Im not lean or cut, i have a good balance of muscle and "fat", so i dont look like a stick, nor do i look like a cake.
although i am trying to slim up so i can have some abs.