"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How would you approach it? (pic included)
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
DonJoseCantosie
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Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
In this instance, judging strictly by the picture, the one on the right should be your target due to the slight separation in the 3 and, really, she's the most attractive of the set. Your back is to her (your right side target) slightly and you open on the center one. Include the far left girl for her input and gradually acknowledge your target as she attempts to include herself. Segue into all 3, but keep the target at arms length and qualifying to be in the conversation. Reward any of her IOIs with incremental attention. Stay C&F and Neg only the target if it seems appropriate and even then keep it light hearted. Disengage after 5-6 minutes and allow them to talk about you before returning (this is social proof generation). This time involve the target more, but stay entertaining. Isolate the target and enjoy.
The Inside Man
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
theunflushables
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