"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How would you approach it? (pic included)
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Rollo Tomassi
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In this instance, judging strictly by the picture, the one on the right should be your target due to the slight separation in the 3 and, really, she's the most attractive of the set. Your back is to her (your right side target) slightly and you open on the center one. Include the far left girl for her input and gradually acknowledge your target as she attempts to include herself. Segue into all 3, but keep the target at arms length and qualifying to be in the conversation. Reward any of her IOIs with incremental attention. Stay C&F and Neg only the target if it seems appropriate and even then keep it light hearted. Disengage after 5-6 minutes and allow them to talk about you before returning (this is social proof generation). This time involve the target more, but stay entertaining. Isolate the target and enjoy.
The Inside Man
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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