"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

how would I go about scoring this dime?

Ryan Adams

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 31, 2016
Messages
737
Reaction score
114
Age
37
ok I'm pretty this solid 8/10 is digging me. the other day we were both at the same bar and she was constantly staring at me. making conversation etc. i got the vibe she found me attractive. also right after that day everything I put on social media she has liked she has never done that before. now we both hang out in different circles so I usually never see her but how would I go about getting her?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

marmel75

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 4, 2012
Messages
7,175
Reaction score
5,571
You should have started by talking to her and getting her number when you were with her at the bar...

Wtf is up with these posts where dudes choose to do nothing when they have the chance then come post on here how can they do something after the fact??
 

Ryan Adams

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 31, 2016
Messages
737
Reaction score
114
Age
37
well I had just met her and we were in a group setting I was sitting with my friends on my side and on the other side of the table was her and her friends.
 

Gan

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 4, 2017
Messages
96
Reaction score
20
She's trying to get your attention by liking all your posts. What other signs are you looking for?
 

marmel75

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 4, 2012
Messages
7,175
Reaction score
5,571
well I had just met her and we were in a group setting I was sitting with my friends on my side and on the other side of the table was her and her friends.
And? You pull her aside for a few seconds and get her number, what's the problem?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

Joined
May 25, 2017
Messages
4,807
Reaction score
851
Location
Florida, USA
You still have a way to contact her. So try to set up something short and inexpensive. Try to make her a fvck buddy. Let her know you wouldn't go around bragging about it and you wouldn't tell anyone in her social circle unless she decides to.
 

Ryan Adams

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 31, 2016
Messages
737
Reaction score
114
Age
37
should I hit her up on social media? because otherwise I'm pretty sure I have no other way of seeing her. but yeah I also thought her liking most of my posts was her getting my attention but I could be wrong but she really doesn't know me so it's odd she would suddenly start liking all of them
 

Andrewdiceclay

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 9, 2017
Messages
59
Reaction score
13
should I hit her up on social media? because otherwise I'm pretty sure I have no other way of seeing her. but yeah I also thought her liking most of my posts was her getting my attention but I could be wrong but she really doesn't know me so it's odd she would suddenly start liking all of them
Hit her up over social media. Make a joke about her liking all her posts and ask for her number. Maybe something like "after all that work of you looking at my posts, you deserve a drink or dinner. What's your number?"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

RangerMIke

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2014
Messages
4,762
Reaction score
7,975
Location
USA, Louisiana
Message her and ask her out. If you have her number... call her and ask her out. Go from there.
 

Von

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 23, 2016
Messages
2,189
Reaction score
1,221
Age
37
Hey remember that picture you posted a while ago...

Never mind...
Did you post a picture recently? Can't remember... never mind... must have been lose in the ''don't know you folder''

OP... ASK HER OUT IN PERSON
 
Joined
May 25, 2017
Messages
4,807
Reaction score
851
Location
Florida, USA
Did you post a picture recently? Can't remember... never mind... must have been lose in the ''don't know you folder''

OP... ASK HER OUT IN PERSON
1. No one was talking to you.

2. He can't ask her out in person because he won't see her again in person unless it's completely random. It could be a year or eternity before he accidentally bumps into her again.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

marmel75

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 4, 2012
Messages
7,175
Reaction score
5,571
Stop press Richard the frog is giving dating advice the entire human race is doomed.

I eagerly await his first so sosuave article how to acquire a bionic d1ck.
Yeah...I love it...

Richard: "Hey...I just wanted to let you know that if you have sex with me your secret is safe..I wont go around bragging to all my friends that I actually had sex for free once..."

"Wait...where are you going??? Come back...could I at least get a free bl0wjob??"

Thats gotta be the move all these guys are missing...letting the chick know you wont go around talking about it...how does a person get to the point they feel that is something a normal person would bring up in a social interaction with a woman?
 
Joined
May 25, 2017
Messages
4,807
Reaction score
851
Location
Florida, USA
Yeah...I love it...

Richard: "Hey...I just wanted to let you know that if you have sex with me your secret is safe..I wont go around bragging to all my friends that I actually had sex for free once..."

"Wait...where are you going??? Come back...could I at least get a free bl0wjob??"

Thats gotta be the move all these guys are missing...letting the chick know you wont go around talking about it...how does a person get to the point they feel that is something a normal person would bring up in a social interaction with a woman?
Because if they all know the same people, she would want to be the one to break the news to the group.

And why single that one part out of the whole post?

Show proof that you've been with hot girls. All I hear is talk from you. How old are you, anyway.
 

marmel75

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 4, 2012
Messages
7,175
Reaction score
5,571
Yeah...I love it...

Richard: "Hey...I just wanted to let you know that if you have sex with me your secret is safe..I wont go around bragging to all my friends that I actually had sex for free once..."

"Wait...where are you going??? Come back...could I at least get a free bl0wjob??"

Thats gotta be the move all these guys are missing...letting the chick know you wont go around talking about it...how does a person get to the point they feel that is something a normal person would bring up in a social interaction with a woman?

Show proof you are not a troll
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

Top