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Thanks for sharing that story. When you asked her out via facebook, did you feel 100% confident you would get laid? Did you feel 100% confident she would say yes or was is 50/50, or 10/90?

Personally, I've had similar experiences but never had a feel for how bad she wanted it. That's what my question was getting at.

Also, that Sahara Quote seems to be bull**** because women rarely take action, even when they are horny and want sex.
Honestly, i thought that i didn't stand a chance (i was not introduced to redpill yet), but i always assume interest (i think this is bad, if someone disagree with me, please enlighten me), specially when some hot chick sends me a request. I was going after the rejection, i sent a straight invite to a date (i was thirsty and would not let down any opportunity to make out with a fine young woman), she accepted, next day we walked out university and shared a few words, and from nowhere, there i was behing uni buildings in the dark making out with this girl i got to know the day before.

I think the theory that applys here is what mrgoodstuff said "You are her type and she enjoyed you, that's what matters."; for the record i did not had another shot like this with another woman.
 

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Thanks for sharing that story. When you asked her out via facebook, did you feel 100% confident you would get laid? Did you feel 100% confident she would say yes or was is 50/50, or 10/90?

Personally, I've had similar experiences but never had a feel for how bad she wanted it. That's what my question was getting at.

Also, that Sahara Quote seems to be bull**** because women rarely take action, even when they are horny and want sex.
I once met a girl via facebook and I knew she was going to have sex with me from the first conversation, she made it so easy that it seemed almost too good to be true. We talked a lot about sex and she was totally compliant, willing to go with me in any direction and take it as far as I wanted. Normally though, I wouldn't recommend talking about sex with someone you haven't met yet.

Women are passive, but their passivity has two forms: they can be passive and let you do anything you want to them, or they can be passive in a way that makes things difficult or even impossible.
 

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All my experiences have shown me that when a woman is interested, you will know. If she is too shy to do it herself, her friends will let you know. They literally will tell you or ask you what you think of their friend.

Once in the College Computer Lab a woman next to me asked what I was doing. I said I was writing an essay. She laughed and said I should do hers instead. I was puzzled and said now why would I do that? It took off from there. At some point she told me it was her last semester and she was going to be moving back home - she was from Texas. She gave me a piece of paper with her name and telephone number and told me to call her sometime, that we could can hang out before she leaves. Something like this never happened before and I was stunned - so I don't believe when women say they are helpless and can't do it anything to progress things. Maybe they don't go all the way, but they make it obvious when they really like a guy.
 

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But, how does a man get this "secret" knowledge into his head. It would make game and getting laid SO MUCH easier if I knew on a scale of 1 to 10 how bad she wants it and how much leeway I have to messup vs how tight my game needs to be to convince her.

Do you understand?
assume it IS this way. she DOES want you. I mean she would really miss out if not right?
fake it till you make it. you are not bad looking from you rprofile pic so just believe in yourself and turn it into a self-fulfilling prophecy. and shrug it off if you messup sometimes (also happenend to me of course!)
 

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When both parties have interest everything flows . As soon as you find difficulties something doesn’t add up . That’s why for a year or so now i use the one chance rule .

Whenever i do something with a woman , she only gets one chance to be with me ,it doesn’t matter if she’s the hottest one in the world. Some of you might suggest that it’s too soon to let go but no . As soon as i start interacting with a woman that i may have interest, i show to her who i really am and whats my worth . No need to further prove anything. Also my instinct indicates if that woman is worthy of my time . If my gut feeling is saying something is wrong then it’s 100% true .

That way you never let feelings get evolved too early and you are always in controlling.

Remember guys , there are women that get abused , raped and many other bad things from their exes but they always back with them . Biggest proof that no matter how bad the situation, a woman that has interest for that man she will be always with him. So stop confusing yourselves if she’s interested or not . If she is, she will make it obvious , just test the waters once and let it flow on its own from it .
 

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When both parties have interest everything flows . As soon as you find difficulties something doesn’t add up . That’s why for a year or so now i use the one chance rule .

Whenever i do something with a woman , she only gets one chance to be with me ,it doesn’t matter if she’s the hottest one in the world. Some of you might suggest that it’s too soon to let go but no . As soon as i start interacting with a woman that i may have interest, i show to her who i really am and whats my worth . No need to further prove anything. Also my instinct indicates if that woman is worthy of my time . If my gut feeling is saying something is wrong then it’s 100% true .

That way you never let feelings get evolved too early and you are always in controlling.

Remember guys , there are women that get abused , raped and many other bad things from their exes but they always back with them . Biggest proof that no matter how bad the situation, a woman that has interest for that man she will be always with him. So stop confusing yourselves if she’s interested or not . If she is, she will make it obvious , just test the waters once and let it flow on its own from it .
I get what you're saying in the latter portion of your post. But they go back because they've seen multiple sides to that ex, so it's easier to justify the bad behaviour. "He/she really is an amazing person, they're just complicated!". They look through their own hurt for the warmth they do experience.

In the beginning, if you want to use the one chance rule, great. But I think one date is difficult to form such an emotional connection where she will be chasing, especially if she has options. I would only bail if I found she was not assisting in any meet-ups or planning, and it was clear she wasn't opening the window for me to go through. As long as things progress and she's staying open and light, it's a green light.
 

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I get what you're saying in the latter portion of your post. But they go back because they've seen multiple sides to that ex, so it's easier to justify the bad behaviour. "He/she really is an amazing person, they're just complicated!". They look through their own hurt for the warmth they do experience.

In the beginning, if you want to use the one chance rule, great. But I think one date is difficult to form such an emotional connection where she will be chasing, especially if she has options. I would only bail if I found she was not assisting in any meet-ups or planning, and it was clear she wasn't opening the window for me to go through. As long as things progress and she's staying open and light, it's a green light.
I do believe that you have to invest and do also something if you want someone. I can’t be the only one suggesting a date . I know many women are not like that but it’s different when you always propose a date and she always complies or if she can’t that day she counter offers, than being a bit bitchy or distant.
Some women they are not so good at planning or coming up with something to do so i don’t take this as low interest. If she’s positive around me things flow as they should .

That’s what most guys don’t understand. They chase all the time women with clearly low to zero interest and they translate that as hard to get or hot and cold or call it however you want. As soon as i “smell” such behaviour I’m gone . I’ve been with women that i thought they had low interest but after a while they came into contact with me on their own . That’s also different.

If whenever i initiate and get a half cold response then she’s out . No hard feelings and you give no validation to her .
 

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I do believe that you have to invest and do also something if you want someone. I can’t be the only one suggesting a date . I know many women are not like that but it’s different when you always propose a date and she always complies or if she can’t that day she counter offers, than being a bit bitchy or distant.
Some women they are not so good at planning or coming up with something to do so i don’t take this as low interest. If she’s positive around me things flow as they should .

That’s what most guys don’t understand. They chase all the time women with clearly low to zero interest and they translate that as hard to get or hot and cold or call it however you want. As soon as i “smell” such behaviour I’m gone . I’ve been with women that i thought they had low interest but after a while they came into contact with me on their own . That’s also different.

If whenever i initiate and get a half cold response then she’s out . No hard feelings and you give no validation to her .
Yea i get what you're saying.

So say you have a good date with a woman on the first outing, which you suggested, and it went well based on your "feelings". Do you text her for the second date, or do you wait for her to text you, so she's showing clear interest?
 

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Yea i get what you're saying.

So say you have a good date with a woman on the first outing, which you suggested, and it went well based on your "feelings". Do you text her for the second date, or do you wait for her to text you, so she's showing clear interest?
It’s not all about feeling. I can be totally into that woman but my experience might indicate something completely different so I’ll just back off.Usually I’ll weigh the facts and see if it’s worth to keep in touch . If you are a newbie in this then you’ll most likely fail and be frustrated in the end .

Ill text a woman if i have something to say . If not then why should i ? That’s just stupid pua techniques.”Should the woman text first or not” . Most of the time stupid . Sometimes not when you are in a game of power. If i say to woman that she should text me when she gets home then yes , she should be the first to initiate . That’s a power game . If nothing like that happened then no need to play these games . When you are matured enough different things start to matter and make sense . Not if i text her 3-4-5 days after i meet her . That’s just stupid in my opinion .
 

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It’s not all about feeling. I can be totally into that woman but my experience might indicate something completely different so I’ll just back off.Usually I’ll weigh the facts and see if it’s worth to keep in touch . If you are a newbie in this then you’ll most likely fail and be frustrated in the end .

Ill text a woman if i have something to say . If not then why should i ? That’s just stupid pua techniques.”Should the woman text first or not” . Most of the time stupid . Sometimes not when you are in a game of power. If i say to woman that she should text me when she gets home then yes , she should be the first to initiate . That’s a power game . If nothing like that happened then no need to play these games . When you are matured enough different things start to matter and make sense . Not if i text her 3-4-5 days after i meet her . That’s just stupid in my opinion .
Is a large amount of power games ever a good thing?
 

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It’s not all about feeling. I can be totally into that woman but my experience might indicate something completely different so I’ll just back off.Usually I’ll weigh the facts and see if it’s worth to keep in touch . If you are a newbie in this then you’ll most likely fail and be frustrated in the end .

Ill text a woman if i have something to say . If not then why should i ? That’s just stupid pua techniques.”Should the woman text first or not” . Most of the time stupid . Sometimes not when you are in a game of power. If i say to woman that she should text me when she gets home then yes , she should be the first to initiate . That’s a power game . If nothing like that happened then no need to play these games . When you are matured enough different things start to matter and make sense . Not if i text her 3-4-5 days after i meet her . That’s just stupid in my opinion .
I've been mulling over the idea that if a woman is interested she will 'open the window' and make it obvious. Rarely these days do I message first after an initial meeting; I found it to be pointless. Though this could make me miss some good opportunities. As the argument is a man should go for what he wants. But my first notion is not about playing games, although women certainly choose who they want and will make it overt when they do. If they want you, they will send some random message or a follow-up as a cue - IOI. If not, I think it's the guy trying to up her already falling interest level.
 

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I've been mulling over the idea that if a woman is interested she will 'open the window' and make it obvious. Rarely these days do I message first after an initial meeting; I found it to be pointless. Though this could make me miss some good opportunities. As the argument is a man should go for what he wants. But my first notion is not about playing games, although women certainly choose who they want and will make it overt when they do. If they want you, they will send some random message or a follow-up as a cue - IOI. If not, I think it's the guy trying to up her already falling interest level.
That’s an interesting thought and I’m no against it . I’m more in favour of doing what comes out of your mind . Off course you have to filter that thought first and then make it real . It’s true though that’s a IOI but not always. Maybe she’s just polite with you . There are endless parameters which you have to take in mind. But i do strongly believe when you got the experience, seeing if she interested in you is as obvious as seeing light in the dark .
 

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It’s true though that’s a IOI but not always.
IOI here meaning it would be her putting herself out there subsequent to the first event, which is always a good sign. And so the only response to this would be a new suggestion for another date, or an equally enthusiastic response to mirror, then a few days later a new date suggestion. And whatever her response is to the date suggestion, would be the answer of her interest level.

Now if she didn’t send the text after the first date? I wouldn’t respond until she reached out. Because it’s screening for only highly interested women. And high interest women make everything obvious.
 

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Whenever i do something with a woman , she only gets one chance to be with me ,it doesn’t matter if she’s the hottest one in the world.
I like this "One chance rule". Cut through all the bull**** and games. My interest +Her interest = ****

If she's not with the program NEXT. Gonna use this! Hate dealing with BS mind games and drama. Thanks.
 

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I like this "One chance rule". Cut through all the bull**** and games. My interest +Her interest = ****

If she's not with the program NEXT. Gonna use this! Hate dealing with BS mind games and drama. Thanks.
Yessir. To thine self be true.
 

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Consider an interesting piece of research that found that women initiate up to 90 percent of all seductions. Women do this in such a discreet way, however, that most men believe they're the ones making the first move. When a woman's attracted to you, she'll let you know by displaying, what are to her, obvious signs of interest.

Most men would benefit on becoming better at reading a woman's body language.
Very good. In the times you are uncertain about her covertness... a man can play on this. Put yourself in her vicinity and as you said if she wants to meet you she will find a way.

She will counter you because she knows the dance.
I prefer to study this rather then what "most" men do wrong.
What you just posted makes you better.

See a girl you want to meet.
Make eye contact.
Whats her reaction? Smile? IOIs
Casually put yourself in her vacinity.
Watch her reaction. She will do something. Counter.
If she does then thats the green light. Approach or open her.
 
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