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As I started to get more experienced at interacting with women, I realized how many opportunities my younger self had missed because I was simply unable to interpret the subtle signals various women would give me.
What's funny is that in their minds these signals must have been super obvious.
I've got the same question for you that I asked to BackInTheGame78. What would you realistically have done differently if you picked up on those hints? Did you have enough game to capitalize on the situation? In my experience, even if a woman is showing IOI's if you lack game she can drop interest in the blink of an eye.

Women don't know what they want.
 

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When a woman displays that kind of interest no game is needed. All I needed to do was suggest something and then show up.

Game is for the 40-50% of women that can go either way.

But you are correct, I had no game back then at all.
You might not have even needed it back then.
 

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Pretty simple. Cute ladies putting in that much effort get noticed. Sometimes it's good.
Good for you sir! I take it you have great conversation skills and social presence which has served you well.
 

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When a woman displays that kind of interest no game is needed. All I needed to do was suggest something and then show up.

Game is for the 40-50% of women that can go either way.

But you are correct, I had no game back then at all.
This is so vague to me. Like show up and do what lol? At a certain point you need to escalate things and it doesn't happen naturally. Bold moves and lucky body language reads still need to made on your part if you are to get her to bed, even if she has showed initial interest.
 

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I've got the same question for you that I asked to BackInTheGame78. What would you realistically have done differently if you picked up on those hints? Did you have enough game to capitalize on the situation? In my experience, even if a woman is showing IOI's if you lack game she can drop interest in the blink of an eye.

Women don't know what they want.
No I did not have enough game. Maybe some of these had such high interest that I could pull it off just by showing up.
Btw I think that there were instances when I could still sense they were sending me signals, but deep inside I was afraid I would not know how to handle it, so I never even made a move. Self-rejection or something like that.

I agree that game is overall important and quite helpful.
 

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No I did not have enough game. Maybe some of these had such high interest that I could pull it off just by showing up.
Btw I think that there were instances when I could still sense they were sending me signals, but deep inside I was afraid I would not know how to handle it, so I never even made a move. Self-rejection or something like that.

I agree that game is overall important and quite helpful.
What kind of game you feel that takes you over the top?
 

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Someone said somewhere that it feels like they are in a porno when these hoes make it that easy for them. I can see that.
 

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No I did not have enough game. Maybe some of these had such high interest that I could pull it off just by showing up.
Btw I think that there were instances when I could still sense they were sending me signals, but deep inside I was afraid I would not know how to handle it, so I never even made a move. Self-rejection or something like that.

I agree that game is overall important and quite helpful.
Can someone please break down for me what it means when a woman has such high interest in you that you can bed her without game? What is going on in her head? Why would she have such a strong interest? What would you compare the arousal she is feeling to? How do you know to have the confidence that you can't **** it up? In my experience, I always feel like my chances with being intimate with women are hanging on on by a thread. Like the conversation is so fragile that one wrong word, or the slightest mistake will **** everything up. What gives you the peace of mind, that her attraction is strong and that the leeway is large.

I feel like just having the peace of mind that little to no game will be effective would make things much easier for me. Like, knowing how much it takes to get the girl to bed. Knowing it's a downhill ride and not an uphill battle yah know?
 

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Can someone please break down for me what it means when a woman has such high interest in you that you can bed her without game? What is going on in her head? Why would she have such a strong interest? What would you compare the arousal she is feeling to? How do you know to have the confidence that you can't **** it up? In my experience, I always feel like my chances with being intimate with women are hanging on on by a thread. Like the conversation is so fragile that one wrong word, or the slightest mistake will **** everything up. What gives you the peace of mind, that her attraction is strong and that the leeway is large.

I feel like just having the peace of mind that little to no game will be effective would make things much easier for me. Like, knowing how much it takes to get the girl to bed. Knowing it's a downhill ride and not an uphill battle yah know?
not sure what your looking for, but will answer as asked. I'll recall on specific, but it will happen as much as you want.

-Several ppl are together that you know at a place you know.
-From that meeting, a girl you don't know well invites you to come to her place; you agree.
-She sits you on a couch and puts on a TV. Hands you a drink.
-Sits next to you but doesn't say much.
-moves to kneel in front of you and suck suck suck, after she removes your stuff.

-her perception of my value was off the charts.

What I just described required nothing from me other than compliance, the only game was to not refuse. Many very small variations of this occur over and over. HOWEVER, If we are in a bad relationship being treated like crap, it will never happen and it will take time to rinse the smell after before it starts up again.

It just happens, flows like water downhill. The only thing you have to do is create the first step... "several ppl are together that you know at a place you know". Do that over and over and the problem will solve itself unless you have the HOWEVER thing.
 

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not sure what your looking for, but will answer as asked. I'll recall on specific, but it will happen as much as you want.

-Several ppl are together that you know at a place you know.
-From that meeting, a girl you don't know well invites you to come to her place; you agree.
-She sits you on a couch and puts on a TV. Hands you a drink.
-Sits next to you but doesn't say much.
-moves to kneel in front of you and suck suck suck, after she removes your stuff.

-her perception of my value was off the charts.

What I just described required nothing from me other than compliance, the only game was to not refuse. Many very small variations of this occur over and over. HOWEVER, If we are in a bad relationship being treated like crap, it will never happen and it will take time to rinse the smell after before it starts up again.

It just happens, flows like water downhill. The only thing you have to do is create the first step... "several ppl are together that you know at a place you know". Do that over and over and the problem will solve itself unless you have the HOWEVER thing.
This! For most part if any situation leads to no-where even you does initiates or she "seems" to initiate it, just pull out the plug, even you think she has a very high interest in you, chances are 90% they not, it could be just to fill water in that empty shell of hers.

Always most of the cases are she is leading you on. Dont fall for it..

So that explain mephorically when shes interested it would be so easy.
 

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When I was a kid I had awkward eye contact from chicks. Then I got more charming and those awkward eye contact became crushes and admiration. And I just kept increasing my charm through working out and dressing better, feeling good about myself, practicing self love and all that stuff, and the admiration and crushes became full blown seductions and love notes.

I never once thought about “game” or how to calibrate to females. always knew it was the girls job to calibrate to you. Your job is to reach your full masculine potential and captivate girls with your dominance, wheter is looks, social dominance, charisma, whatever.

I dont understand how I was able to know that from my core being as a 14 year old boy, and a lot of guys here are still stuck on trying to figure out “game.”

Sometimes the females initiate. Sometimes they are stringing you along. Stop trying to figure them out. If you were at your full potential, nothing they do matter.

If anything, dismiss them for not being obvious enough with their interest.

I wouldn’t frame it as I missed an opportunity with a chick at a bus stop. I would frame it as some random chick being socially awkward. Because I have the luxury of 100 chicks before her perfectly hitting on me like a normal human being.

Remember guys, you don’t have to calibrate to weird and confusing chicks.

There is a reality where women perceive you as high value and they hit on you all the damn time.

Don’t let your ego trick you into thinking you are the apex alpha male and somehow all these confusing signals are as good as it gets. Because it’s not.

All I see is more confusion and frustration. All your game is overcompensating for not being your greatest potential.

Once you’ve arrived, women actually seduce you. It happens all the time.

If you think some chick won’t be obvious because she’s a woman, put brad Pitt next to her and see what happens.

Don’t excuse women for being murky and socially awkward. Dismiss them. Put a price on yourself.

My price is any woman who wants my attention has to be obviously flirting with me. Otherwise she has no value to me and I will dismiss her and move on because my time is precious.

After awhile, your “price” will show up on your presence. Your presence alone will automatically communicate to women that you have low tolerance for time wasters and they will immediately comply and seduce you.

Guys who get murky reactions have weak presence themselves.

Women are just reflecting back to guys what they are.

If you are completely transparent in your masculine dominance, women are completely transparent with their feminine submissive/supplicating behavior and compliance.

Unless of course you run into a really shy woman.
 
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As I started to get more experienced at interacting with women, I realized how many opportunities my younger self had missed because I was simply unable to interpret the subtle signals various women would give me.
What's funny is that in their minds these signals must have been super obvious.
I think that happens to everyone. There are so many totally obvious opportunities that I missed.
 

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When the bell goes off in your head, what do you do in response? How do you approach a woman differently when YOU KNOW she's interested vs. when you don't?
Just talk to her. The way she reacts will either confirm my impression or not. Or escalate. Sometimes you can start touching and kissing really quickly in these situations, but obviously you have to take one step at a time and keep watching her reaction.
 

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Consider an interesting piece of research that found that women initiate up to 90 percent of all seductions. Women do this in such a discreet way, however, that most men believe they're the ones making the first move.
This didn't sound right to me, so I Googled it, and what came up was a bunch of articles about how women initiate most divorces lol. In fact, it said college educated women initiate 90% of their divorces! That's a bunch, because it's a common stat that women initiate 70% of divorces.

Anyway, whatever this research you found was, I can't help but wonder what they consider initiating? Eye contact? Sitting at a nearby table in a restaurant? That's not exactly heavy lifting. For that matter, I wonder what they consider seduction. Are they including a wife initiating sex with her husband? There's a pretty wide path there.
 

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And btw, I think I quite recently missed such an opportunity as well.
I was checking out this cute girl at the gym, and she noticed. Next time we were both working out, she moved much closer to me, positioning herself in a way that I could easily intercept her if I moved around.

I did not do ****. This whole social distancing/mask aspect makes feel that I would look weird approaching in the gym.
That was stupid of me, I mostly write it here to keep myself accountable.
 

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Last night I had a strange experience. I was checking out a hot girl on the bus and she definitely noticed and stared right back at me for a while. When I got off, I was surprise to find her walking right next to me so close that we almost looked like a couple and when we got to the exit she looked confused and went back the other way. I could easily have asked her if she was lost, offered to show her the way etc, or just said hi and started a conversation when she was walking next to me. The reason I didn't was because I was with another girl.

When a woman likes you she's going to do things that make it easy - they make it super easy to approach, they make it super easy to talk to them, they make it super easy for you to touch them.. for example by standing/sitting really close and not moving away when you touch accidentally.

Sometimes we think that women are totally passive and that they don't do anything to make something happen (they say it's the man's job to approach etc), but that's not completely true. Women do send out signals and they tend to do things that make it easier for men to approach them when they want to be approached. Of course, they also have a thousand subtle ways of making things difficult when they're not interested.
You are 100% correct. True, a woman (unless you look like Brad Pitt or you are famous) will not initiate a conversation with you, ask for your number or ask you out.

However, if they find you attractive they will look at you (even if shy), put themselves in proximity to you that you will initiate conversations with you.

Conversely, a woman that is already in a happy relationship and/or doesn't find you attractive will act like you don't exist!!
 

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I agree. I think that the signs are so subtle that you often won't notice them even if you're looking out for them. But I've definitely experienced, many times, just feeling that a certain girl was interested and not being able to explain why until I analyzed everything she did in detail.

Now, with experience, I'm more conscious of some of the signs and they can seem so glaringly obvious sometimes that it's almost obscene.

Here are a few examples:

- When a girl sits/stands so close to you that you're touching or she doesn't move away when you come close [proximity]
- When a girl just agrees with everything you say and is ok with whatever you want to do [submission]
- When a girl keeps laughing at your jokes, even though they're not really that funny [attention]
- When a girl goes out of her way to do something for you [kindness]
- When a girl doesn't leave when she said she needed to and instead stays with you [time]
- When a girl acts kind of shy/nervous around you [timidity]
- When a girl tells you she admires you or pays you some kind of compliment [admiration]

All of these things set off alarm bells in my head if I notice them.
All good points and lists, but I will add two more.

When a woman sees you look at her and she right away preens herself. (E.g, touches her hair, adjusts her dress). This is a sign she finds you attractive.

Two women are whispering, giggling and looking at you afterwards. Almost always a good sign. Now if its a girl and guy whispering and giggling and then looking at you; that's almost never good.
 
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This didn't sound right to me, so I Googled it, and what came up was a bunch of articles about how women initiate most divorces lol. In fact, it said college educated women initiate 90% of their divorces! That's a bunch, because it's a common stat that women initiate 70% of divorces.

Anyway, whatever this research you found was, I can't help but wonder what they consider initiating? Eye contact? Sitting at a nearby table in a restaurant? That's not exactly heavy lifting. For that matter, I wonder what they consider seduction. Are they including a wife initiating sex with her husband? There's a pretty wide path there.
Pease, A. (2014). Body Language: How to read others' thoughts by their gestures.
I don't know the details about the research, i just read the statement referring to that book as the source.
They probably asked women who were successfully picked up by a man after the fact if she was aware of the man and if she tried to show any interest by capturing his attention through the usual channels: Eye contact, Smiling, Communication, Preening, Touch. Where 90% said yes.
BeExcellent liking my post atleast tells us that one woman agrees and relates to that.
I don't find this strange at all. Like we use to say around here: highly interested women make it easy for you.
 
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