"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PipeDope

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Long story short. My girlfriend and I went to eat with her sister and brother in law. Everything was going fine and out of nowhere she was being a batch and I called her out on it. I think I caught her off guard because she didn't think I would do it in front of her family, so she became more of a *****. I kept poking at her trying to instigate it further since she was being boring and a ***** the whole time. Anyways, we get outside and she basically says I don't want to talk to you right now. Word. I get her in my truck and blast music, singing and having a good time. Drop Her off at her car and don't even look at her. Haven't talked to her since last night. She is ragging but that's no excuse. Was this handled well? Certainly didn't get quite the response I was after because usually when I put her in her place and be a **** she comes around pretty quick.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PipeDope

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I think you may be right. At the time I didn't know how to react though, there was absolutely nothing to make her act the way she did
 

stevo

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If you're out and your girl is acting a dummy and you're with friends, you don't call her out on it the moment it's happening especially in front of other people. You shouldn't be that concerned about why her mood changed, women go through sheet like that.

What you do is, end the night early. Exit out of there.

Just go by your principles, if someone is bringing you down or ruining the night, you exit and go do something better.

If you really want to talk about it, that'd be later when she's not in a mood so she can better receive what you're saying.

She might not hit you up because she feels embarrassed. If you wait 5 days after it happened and nothing from her, hit her up to go do something. If she responds move the relationship like that day didn't happen, don't even bring it up.
 

Thorninmyside

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Making a scene with an audience was less than awesome, but she sounds like a cow and needs to know that the red monster is not a get out of jail free card.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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devilkingx2

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apparently the best way to deal with a woman being a b**** for no reason is to just ignore her until she gets over it
 

Rainman4707

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Yeah. I started a thread about this kind of scenario.

When one is arguing with another it is very difficult to keep your composure. One says things & later regrets saying them. Sometimes my girlfriend tells me something that she knows will pi** me off. I have been reacting to it. I'm working on not reacting, keeping my cool..going away thinking it over.
 
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