Long story short. My girlfriend and I went to eat with her sister and brother in law. Everything was going fine and out of nowhere she was being a batch and I called her out on it. I think I caught her off guard because she didn't think I would do it in front of her family, so she became more of a *****. I kept poking at her trying to instigate it further since she was being boring and a ***** the whole time. Anyways, we get outside and she basically says I don't want to talk to you right now. Word. I get her in my truck and blast music, singing and having a good time. Drop Her off at her car and don't even look at her. Haven't talked to her since last night. She is ragging but that's no excuse. Was this handled well? Certainly didn't get quite the response I was after because usually when I put her in her place and be a **** she comes around pretty quick.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How was this handled
- Thread starter PipeDope
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
stevo
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 4, 2014
- Messages
- 600
- Reaction score
- 250
If you're out and your girl is acting a dummy and you're with friends, you don't call her out on it the moment it's happening especially in front of other people. You shouldn't be that concerned about why her mood changed, women go through sheet like that.
What you do is, end the night early. Exit out of there.
Just go by your principles, if someone is bringing you down or ruining the night, you exit and go do something better.
If you really want to talk about it, that'd be later when she's not in a mood so she can better receive what you're saying.
She might not hit you up because she feels embarrassed. If you wait 5 days after it happened and nothing from her, hit her up to go do something. If she responds move the relationship like that day didn't happen, don't even bring it up.
What you do is, end the night early. Exit out of there.
Just go by your principles, if someone is bringing you down or ruining the night, you exit and go do something better.
If you really want to talk about it, that'd be later when she's not in a mood so she can better receive what you're saying.
She might not hit you up because she feels embarrassed. If you wait 5 days after it happened and nothing from her, hit her up to go do something. If she responds move the relationship like that day didn't happen, don't even bring it up.
Thorninmyside
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Feb 18, 2014
- Messages
- 622
- Reaction score
- 356
Making a scene with an audience was less than awesome, but she sounds like a cow and needs to know that the red monster is not a get out of jail free card.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
apparently the best way to deal with a woman being a b**** for no reason is to just ignore her until she gets over it
Rainman4707
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 30, 2012
- Messages
- 1,727
- Reaction score
- 598
Yeah. I started a thread about this kind of scenario.
When one is arguing with another it is very difficult to keep your composure. One says things & later regrets saying them. Sometimes my girlfriend tells me something that she knows will pi** me off. I have been reacting to it. I'm working on not reacting, keeping my cool..going away thinking it over.
When one is arguing with another it is very difficult to keep your composure. One says things & later regrets saying them. Sometimes my girlfriend tells me something that she knows will pi** me off. I have been reacting to it. I'm working on not reacting, keeping my cool..going away thinking it over.