backseatjuan
Banned
How to turn her on and get her out with three simple texts?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How to turn her on and get her out with three simple texts?
- Thread starter backseatjuan
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Zion
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sylvester the cat
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That key lock thing is the dumbest method I ever heard. Do not buy it.
logicallefty
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Something like this:
Lefty's Text 1: "Hi HB. This is Lefty here. Now that you have my number, please don't write on any bathrooms walls 'for a great time call Lefty', OK?"
HB: ((whatever she says..))
((Wait about a day to reply no exact time just 'a while'))
Lefty Text 2: I got all of these people calling me now wanting a 'great time' do you know anything about that???
HB: ((whatever she says))
((Wait about a day to reply.. no exact time just 'a while'))
Lefty Text 3: sorry i took me so long to get back to you. been busy answering all these calls and doing my usual saving of the world I always do... Can we just pick a time, day, place and meet? Be easier that way.
((setup date, be gone))
This lays the groundwork that you aren't a chump with nothing funny to say.
This shows her that you are confident about yourself.
This shows you are busy and have a life besides texting her
This gets you to the question of asking her out in 3 texts.
Edit: You could also concur that this shows a little bit of your polite side too, but not in a chupy way
I have actually done it exactly like this with success on more than one occasion.
Lefty's Text 1: "Hi HB. This is Lefty here. Now that you have my number, please don't write on any bathrooms walls 'for a great time call Lefty', OK?"
HB: ((whatever she says..))
((Wait about a day to reply no exact time just 'a while'))
Lefty Text 2: I got all of these people calling me now wanting a 'great time' do you know anything about that???
HB: ((whatever she says))
((Wait about a day to reply.. no exact time just 'a while'))
Lefty Text 3: sorry i took me so long to get back to you. been busy answering all these calls and doing my usual saving of the world I always do... Can we just pick a time, day, place and meet? Be easier that way.
((setup date, be gone))
This lays the groundwork that you aren't a chump with nothing funny to say.
This shows her that you are confident about yourself.
This shows you are busy and have a life besides texting her
This gets you to the question of asking her out in 3 texts.
Edit: You could also concur that this shows a little bit of your polite side too, but not in a chupy way
I have actually done it exactly like this with success on more than one occasion.
Zion
Senior Don Juan
I'm all for being cheeky but referencing the same joke twice is enough, 3 is too much.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
backseatjuan
Banned
Online works as well?
logicallefty
Moderator
backseatjuan said:
Yes. IMO it's no different than texting. Especially if you do it from a phone.
backseatjuan
Banned
Ok, so let's say you are online dating site.
He HB. This is lefty. Now that you have my number....
But dude, she doesn't have your number. This don't sound legit.
He HB. This is lefty. Now that you have my number....
But dude, she doesn't have your number. This don't sound legit.
logicallefty
Moderator
Yeah I see your point. This was assuming you had exchanged numbers in real life. Will take another couple of messages to get her number online. Your goal online should always be to get the number.backseatjuan said:
backseatjuan
Banned
Hi, what's your number?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
logicallefty
Moderator
I prefer to add a little substances to my messages to chicks but the short, simple, and brief option can be good too.backseatjuan said:
Here is what I might say:
"Hi there. You seem interesting and I would love to shoot the sh|t with you. This message system gives me fits sometimes, the geeks that wrote it must have got something messed up. If you want to send me your number I will text you sometime before the 32nd of this month".
So you may be asking "So why before the 32nd of the month?"
Exactly! She will be wondering too.. If she asks what it means say "That's the day of each month that I behave like a perfect gentleman". And yeah it never comes does it. And I never behave like a perfect gentleman. lol
Key Lock is for guys who just don't get it. It's a great gimmick to sell a system to clueless guys. Unfortunately, these guys are still going for women who aren't highly interested in them because the guys feel that saying something specific is going to get them to like him more.
It's the illusion of action.
The actual material is good, but a true alpha proceeds from a truly abundant mindset, and would use the actual material ONLY TO RESPOND TO WOMEN ALREADY INTERESTED ENOUGH TO BE REACHING OUT TO HIM!!!
It's the illusion of action.
The actual material is good, but a true alpha proceeds from a truly abundant mindset, and would use the actual material ONLY TO RESPOND TO WOMEN ALREADY INTERESTED ENOUGH TO BE REACHING OUT TO HIM!!!