backseatjuan
Banned
How to turn her on and get her out with three simple texts?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How to turn her on and get her out with three simple texts?
- Thread starter backseatjuan
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Zion
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That key lock thing is the dumbest method I ever heard. Do not buy it.
logicallefty
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Something like this:
Lefty's Text 1: "Hi HB. This is Lefty here. Now that you have my number, please don't write on any bathrooms walls 'for a great time call Lefty', OK?"
HB: ((whatever she says..))
((Wait about a day to reply no exact time just 'a while'))
Lefty Text 2: I got all of these people calling me now wanting a 'great time' do you know anything about that???
HB: ((whatever she says))
((Wait about a day to reply.. no exact time just 'a while'))
Lefty Text 3: sorry i took me so long to get back to you. been busy answering all these calls and doing my usual saving of the world I always do... Can we just pick a time, day, place and meet? Be easier that way.
((setup date, be gone))
This lays the groundwork that you aren't a chump with nothing funny to say.
This shows her that you are confident about yourself.
This shows you are busy and have a life besides texting her
This gets you to the question of asking her out in 3 texts.
Edit: You could also concur that this shows a little bit of your polite side too, but not in a chupy way
I have actually done it exactly like this with success on more than one occasion.
Lefty's Text 1: "Hi HB. This is Lefty here. Now that you have my number, please don't write on any bathrooms walls 'for a great time call Lefty', OK?"
HB: ((whatever she says..))
((Wait about a day to reply no exact time just 'a while'))
Lefty Text 2: I got all of these people calling me now wanting a 'great time' do you know anything about that???
HB: ((whatever she says))
((Wait about a day to reply.. no exact time just 'a while'))
Lefty Text 3: sorry i took me so long to get back to you. been busy answering all these calls and doing my usual saving of the world I always do... Can we just pick a time, day, place and meet? Be easier that way.
((setup date, be gone))
This lays the groundwork that you aren't a chump with nothing funny to say.
This shows her that you are confident about yourself.
This shows you are busy and have a life besides texting her
This gets you to the question of asking her out in 3 texts.
Edit: You could also concur that this shows a little bit of your polite side too, but not in a chupy way
I have actually done it exactly like this with success on more than one occasion.
Zion
Senior Don Juan
I'm all for being cheeky but referencing the same joke twice is enough, 3 is too much.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
backseatjuan
Banned
Online works as well?
logicallefty
Moderator
backseatjuan said:
Yes. IMO it's no different than texting. Especially if you do it from a phone.
backseatjuan
Banned
Ok, so let's say you are online dating site.
He HB. This is lefty. Now that you have my number....
But dude, she doesn't have your number. This don't sound legit.
He HB. This is lefty. Now that you have my number....
But dude, she doesn't have your number. This don't sound legit.
logicallefty
Moderator
Yeah I see your point. This was assuming you had exchanged numbers in real life. Will take another couple of messages to get her number online. Your goal online should always be to get the number.backseatjuan said:
backseatjuan
Banned
Hi, what's your number?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
logicallefty
Moderator
I prefer to add a little substances to my messages to chicks but the short, simple, and brief option can be good too.backseatjuan said:
Here is what I might say:
"Hi there. You seem interesting and I would love to shoot the sh|t with you. This message system gives me fits sometimes, the geeks that wrote it must have got something messed up. If you want to send me your number I will text you sometime before the 32nd of this month".
So you may be asking "So why before the 32nd of the month?"
Exactly! She will be wondering too.. If she asks what it means say "That's the day of each month that I behave like a perfect gentleman". And yeah it never comes does it. And I never behave like a perfect gentleman. lol
Key Lock is for guys who just don't get it. It's a great gimmick to sell a system to clueless guys. Unfortunately, these guys are still going for women who aren't highly interested in them because the guys feel that saying something specific is going to get them to like him more.
It's the illusion of action.
The actual material is good, but a true alpha proceeds from a truly abundant mindset, and would use the actual material ONLY TO RESPOND TO WOMEN ALREADY INTERESTED ENOUGH TO BE REACHING OUT TO HIM!!!
It's the illusion of action.
The actual material is good, but a true alpha proceeds from a truly abundant mindset, and would use the actual material ONLY TO RESPOND TO WOMEN ALREADY INTERESTED ENOUGH TO BE REACHING OUT TO HIM!!!