my fuc* buddy wants to get together with me soon, but lately ive just not been feeling like i want to have sex because of some personal matters i need to deal with first. its been very hectic in my life lately and i don't know her well enough where i can disclose that kind of information to her. it's not because of her, but i'm just concerned that if i turn her down harshly unintentionally, she might think that i'm not interested, or playing games which is not the case.. how do i turn her down in a nice way?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
how to turn down a girl?
- Thread starter rocco
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MilanoRedDC5
Don Juan
Tell her you're booked all week. Proceed with a, "We'll definetely try for next!"
Continue until you're ready to smash that again!
Goodluck with the personal problems man!
Continue until you're ready to smash that again!
Goodluck with the personal problems man!
MacAvoy
Banned
Ever hear of something called honesty? Tell her that your still attracted to her but you've got a lot on your plate this week and you look forward to making it up to her next week or whenver your herpes flare up goes away.
MilanoRedDC5
Don Juan
^Or you could cruise down Honesty Ln.
Two great choices to choose from.
Two great choices to choose from.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.