"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How to tell her if you are busy ?

CrazyDude93

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I've been on 3 dates with this girl, . we had really good time together. The problem is: I'm very busy and can't meet her for the next 1 month. I'm not so sure that she's that into me. between the dates (1 date per week) we didn't call or send messages to each other. though everything SEEMED great last 3 dates . Now I'm thinking of calling her and tell her that I've been busy and can't see her for a while. I really like this girl and I don't want her to think that I give her BS reasons for not meeting her. SO.. any tips ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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backseatjuan

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If you don’t meet and keep up communication alas play low IL game she will think you have low interest in her and her IL will drop. You telling her you busy.... I don’t know why would she listen if she has average less that 80% IL in you.
 

CrazyDude93

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If you don’t meet and keep up communication alas play low IL game she will think you have low interest in her and her IL will drop. You telling her you busy.... I don’t know why would she listen if she has average less that 80% IL in you.
I haven't said anything yet. Just wanna let her know that I've been busy and I really am.
 

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Tell her u busy for a month a set up a date for when your free. She will either say yes or anything else is a no. If she says yes, she will either show up or flake.

Don´t overthink it. If she says yes and then cancels, she should be the one to counteroffer.
 

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Tell her u busy for a month a set up a date for when your free. She will either say yes or anything else is a no. If she says yes, she will either show up or flake.

Don´t overthink it. If she says yes and then cancels, she should be the one to counteroffer.
Setting up a date that far out is super risky. No one will think they were serious when offered that unless the guy is on a boat at sea.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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