"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to tell her if you are busy ?

CrazyDude93

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I've been on 3 dates with this girl, . we had really good time together. The problem is: I'm very busy and can't meet her for the next 1 month. I'm not so sure that she's that into me. between the dates (1 date per week) we didn't call or send messages to each other. though everything SEEMED great last 3 dates . Now I'm thinking of calling her and tell her that I've been busy and can't see her for a while. I really like this girl and I don't want her to think that I give her BS reasons for not meeting her. SO.. any tips ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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backseatjuan

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If you don’t meet and keep up communication alas play low IL game she will think you have low interest in her and her IL will drop. You telling her you busy.... I don’t know why would she listen if she has average less that 80% IL in you.
 

CrazyDude93

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If you don’t meet and keep up communication alas play low IL game she will think you have low interest in her and her IL will drop. You telling her you busy.... I don’t know why would she listen if she has average less that 80% IL in you.
I haven't said anything yet. Just wanna let her know that I've been busy and I really am.
 

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Tell her u busy for a month a set up a date for when your free. She will either say yes or anything else is a no. If she says yes, she will either show up or flake.

Don´t overthink it. If she says yes and then cancels, she should be the one to counteroffer.
 

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Tell her u busy for a month a set up a date for when your free. She will either say yes or anything else is a no. If she says yes, she will either show up or flake.

Don´t overthink it. If she says yes and then cancels, she should be the one to counteroffer.
Setting up a date that far out is super risky. No one will think they were serious when offered that unless the guy is on a boat at sea.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

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