"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to tame that feeling?

Fatal Jay

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yes I agree whatever you do....DO NOT REPLY TO THE EX, NO MATTER WHAT

your winning, the ball is in your court be proud

the wound will heal, I been there years ago and wish I knew sosuave back then

so take the advice from someone who been there
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Neon Owl

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Thanks guys. I've been doing a bit of reading up and it seems she has a lot of BPD traits...started out sweet as pie then gradually became uncontrollable...she would be up and down all the time one day she'd be all over me gazing into my eyes then the next telling me all the things she hates about me. I never knew where I stood with her.
This is actually the 3rd time we've split up I knew something wasn't right the whole time but I was infatuated with her and so chose to ignore my instinct telling me she was no good for me.
She also had a borderline eating disorder and refused to go to the doctors even after getting a smear test showing abnormalities because she just assumed she had cancer so what's the point in going :/ talk about being frustrated she actually drove me to tears at one point just for the fact I felt helpless to make her realise that she needs to get help.
I think once i get a good woman who is (relatively) normal I'll wonder wtf I was doing staying with her for as long as i did. Bring it on!
 

lamobatsman

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but I think he is pathetic for, acting like someone else and wasting his time trying to trick this woman

that's a f@cking loser move, that's very childish[/QUOTE]


so true. the girl i was gaming said the same thing about me too
 
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