"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how to stop girls wanting to be your girlfriend? Jealousy

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I wanna be friends with girls, hang out with them, perhaps bang them, just be around them.
But i don't wanna be their boyfriend. Got a issue with a girl now and she won't contact me since finding out I'm out with women.
Just have to move on and find other girls.

How do we screen for this stuff? Had guys tell me they will hunt me down if i hurt their sister/cousin. Not physically hurt them they mean If I go and bang other girls and shes hurt from this.

Of course It's ok if its a hooker but if its some other girl all hell breaks loose.

Some girls are cool with not being your girlfriend.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I wanna be friends with girls, hang out with them, perhaps bang them, just be around them.
But i don't wanna be their boyfriend. Got a issue with a girl now and she won't contact me since finding out I'm out with women.
Just have to move on and find other girls.

How do we screen for this stuff? Had guys tell me they will hunt me down if i hurt their sister/cousin. Not physically hurt them they mean If I go and bang other girls and shes hurt from this.

Of course It's ok if its a hooker but if its some other girl all hell breaks loose.

Some girls are cool with not being your girlfriend.

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Almost all girls I've dated, eventually want to be my GF. The exception is a coworker who recently expressed interest in being a Side-chick.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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zekko

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I wanna be friends with girls, hang out with them, perhaps bang them, just be around them.
That's interesting, and somewhat unusual for around here - when you say "perhaps bang them". Most guys here seem to be only concerned with banging them, and would take great effort to avoid being in a situation where that doesn't take place. The fact that you say you want to "just be around them" indicates you actually like them, whereas a lot of guys in the community seem to hate women, or at least dislike them.

I've been wondering lately about an approach where you friendzone every girl. I've heard a few guys discussing this, theorizing that it would drive them crazy, but I don't know of anyone who has actually tried it for any length of time.
 

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Quality women have no interest in being a side piece or part of a rotation. If you show them what they can have, they will move mountains to be with you...
 

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One thing that I've realized over the years is that women can be more competitive than men. Once they start dating a man they're interested in, they realize that other women are interested in him too, so they need to lock him down to avoid competition from those other bytches. In other words, it's pretty much inevitable that any women you fvck will eventually try to lock you down. Just remember that most women won't try to lock you down because they're truly in love, they're doing it because they know they're competing against other women. The only exceptions to this rule are women who haven't been alpha-widowed.
 
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