You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What is your f*cking a problem? I asked a god damn question *******, yeah, I see how it is, I'll f*cking request you be banned everytime to ask a question to. And if you think I'm trolling, stop fooling yourself, this site isn't worth trolling on. You suck at life, die. Now I'm trying to improve and get over pervness and if you don't have any good advice, well suck a **** assh*le, this site is for STRAIGHT men. Maybe you're just trolling my topic, to hide the fact that you're too much of a piece of **** to actually have any good advice.WesCottII said:
umm...I'll take "you are" for fiveViper said:
I say, the toys really are out the pram now kiddo. Want me to help pick them up?
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And if you think I give a damn about anything you say, stop fooling yourself kiddo. I suck at life? "hi pot, I see you've met kettle"
You didn't let me finish....sure I have advice, I've given it to you before in the past and you whined, and cried, then whined some more, without even trying it (yeah, you didn't try it, or you wouldn't be whining again).
And if you think I give a damn about you, stop fooling yourself. You could die today, and I still wouldn't care.
I'll take "grammar *****" for 10.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Viper said:
Do the world a favor and kill yourself.
Yeah, I guess I do feel kind of guilty about it, I'm just afraid that if I'm checking girls out and someone sees/the girl sees, they'll think I'm a pervert or something. But still man, it's hard to not feel guilty when you masturbate to fantasies of these girls. I'll definitely check out those threads, because I'll admit, I am a desperate guy.Gubby said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You WILL? Don't put things off, do it now
Heheh XD I had guilt like this once... nowadays I almost wish girls could read my mind so I could see the looks on their faces