"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How to stay grounded and not loose one self?
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The Inside Man
Master Don Juan
The Inside Man said:Excellent advice jophil and radh, applicable to STRs too. I certainly needed to hear it after the weekend I had. Lots of fun, but now it's time to withdraw and let the "pull" do its' thing.
I did the "pull" early and not sure if I got the results I wanted to get.
At this point, should I still do it?
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Her behavior indicates that she is an unfit investment and unlikely to pay a dividend.frencha said:I did the "pull" early and not sure if I got the results I wanted to get.
At this point, should I still do it?
What in heaven's name do you expect from her ? IF she was going to fit your expectations and meet your wants she would have bent over backwards to do just that by now.
Look down a moment - see that big yellow lever labeled EJECT.
Serg897
Master Don Juan
It seems to me that she was just throwing non-stop sh!t tests at you in an attempt to make you jealous. The "Im going to Vegas!" nonsense should have been the last straw.
I would definitely withdraw, especially emotionally. But I would also be blunt with her, and problably say something like "Im not sure if I want to be involved with someone who likes to play emotional games" - its honest, and its the god damn truth.
This is a good thread for me at the moment since Im approaching the 2 month mark with a new relationship, and its nice to keep your mind in the right place.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Thanks guys for the great input.
Yeah i'm sure there is a nice person.. Most people have some niceness and some *******ness in them. You want to being out niceness from behind all the ***** attitude dont worry about changing people or bringing out their best. That's their job your not a personal coach..frencha said:I've been struggling to understand why I'm not gone by now. Partly cause I'm am attached/whooped but also somehow I have this false pretense that behind all this b*tch attitude there is a nicer person:crackup: God... who am I kidding..
Thanks guys for the great input.
Your thing is to find the best person for you with the lest amount of head aches. The way I look at it is it's like a car.. they all eventually have problems but why buy one that has them from the get go? I'll never get a new one so I look for one that's in the best shape and worry about things when they come. Dont be hard on yourself if you need time to feel better take that time if you need time to think about her do so. But dont let it consume your personal life. A girl friend of mine has this quote she never applies to her life but always talks about it " Dont make someone a priority if your only an option"
bam bam said:Yeah i'm sure there is a nice person.. Most people have some niceness and some *******ness in them. You want to being out niceness from behind all the ***** attitude dont worry about changing people or bringing out their best. That's their job your not a personal coach..
Your thing is to find the best person for you with the lest amount of head aches. The way I look at it is it's like a car.. they all eventually have problems but why buy one that has them from the get go? I'll never get a new one so I look for one that's in the best shape and worry about things when they come. Dont be hard on yourself if you need time to feel better take that time if you need time to think about her do so. But dont let it consume your personal life. A girl friend of mine has this quote she never applies to her life but always talks about it " Dont make someone a priority if your only an option"
Wow, I just found the same quote yesterday. Thank you!