"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How to stay grounded and not loose one self?
- Thread starter frencha
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The Inside Man
Master Don Juan
The Inside Man said:Excellent advice jophil and radh, applicable to STRs too. I certainly needed to hear it after the weekend I had. Lots of fun, but now it's time to withdraw and let the "pull" do its' thing.
I did the "pull" early and not sure if I got the results I wanted to get.
At this point, should I still do it?
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Her behavior indicates that she is an unfit investment and unlikely to pay a dividend.frencha said:I did the "pull" early and not sure if I got the results I wanted to get.
At this point, should I still do it?
What in heaven's name do you expect from her ? IF she was going to fit your expectations and meet your wants she would have bent over backwards to do just that by now.
Look down a moment - see that big yellow lever labeled EJECT.
Serg897
Master Don Juan
It seems to me that she was just throwing non-stop sh!t tests at you in an attempt to make you jealous. The "Im going to Vegas!" nonsense should have been the last straw.
I would definitely withdraw, especially emotionally. But I would also be blunt with her, and problably say something like "Im not sure if I want to be involved with someone who likes to play emotional games" - its honest, and its the god damn truth.
This is a good thread for me at the moment since Im approaching the 2 month mark with a new relationship, and its nice to keep your mind in the right place.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Thanks guys for the great input.
Yeah i'm sure there is a nice person.. Most people have some niceness and some *******ness in them. You want to being out niceness from behind all the ***** attitude dont worry about changing people or bringing out their best. That's their job your not a personal coach..frencha said:I've been struggling to understand why I'm not gone by now. Partly cause I'm am attached/whooped but also somehow I have this false pretense that behind all this b*tch attitude there is a nicer person:crackup: God... who am I kidding..
Thanks guys for the great input.
Your thing is to find the best person for you with the lest amount of head aches. The way I look at it is it's like a car.. they all eventually have problems but why buy one that has them from the get go? I'll never get a new one so I look for one that's in the best shape and worry about things when they come. Dont be hard on yourself if you need time to feel better take that time if you need time to think about her do so. But dont let it consume your personal life. A girl friend of mine has this quote she never applies to her life but always talks about it " Dont make someone a priority if your only an option"
bam bam said:Yeah i'm sure there is a nice person.. Most people have some niceness and some *******ness in them. You want to being out niceness from behind all the ***** attitude dont worry about changing people or bringing out their best. That's their job your not a personal coach..
Your thing is to find the best person for you with the lest amount of head aches. The way I look at it is it's like a car.. they all eventually have problems but why buy one that has them from the get go? I'll never get a new one so I look for one that's in the best shape and worry about things when they come. Dont be hard on yourself if you need time to feel better take that time if you need time to think about her do so. But dont let it consume your personal life. A girl friend of mine has this quote she never applies to her life but always talks about it " Dont make someone a priority if your only an option"
Wow, I just found the same quote yesterday. Thank you!