"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to spot or test for BPD woman?

sosumba

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What can you do to covertly test if the woman is BPD when you date ther?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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They will make personal life decisions that seem childish or so nonsensical it leaves you with a one word question. Why?
^^^ this right here
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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They will overshare right away. Every relationship they’ve ever had they’ve always been the victim, they’ll mention daddy or mommy issues or “abuse”, they’ll come right out and tell you that they have abandonment issues.
 

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BPD resources from my friend Jeremy:

 

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Every ex is THE WORST PERSON IN THE WORLD. But you are the best person in the world...for now.
Yep. I hate borderlines with a passion. They’re basically narcissists that don’t have a spine. They’ll stab you in the back just as fast, they’re cowards, they talk in vague terms. I wish nothing but bad things to happen to borderlines.
 

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Do a background check on her, if she has been able to live alone with themselves with some sensible long period of time.. Every narcicist will fail this.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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They will be all lovey dovey one minute and instantly attack you or blow up the next min.

Also, I ALWAYS recommend to guys if they get a chance to hang out at the girl's place, excuse yourself to the bathroom and look in her medicine cabinet for any meds.
 

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They will be all lovey dovey one minute and instantly attack you or blow up the next min.

Also, I ALWAYS recommend to guys if they get a chance to hang out at the girl's place, excuse yourself to the bathroom and look in her medicine cabinet for any meds.
Most narcissists aren’t going to invite you inside their house. And if they do it won’t be until months of knowing them, it’s the weirdest thing.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tell her things straight. Open communication is important in relationship
 

Epimanes

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Firstly.. check to make sure she has a vagina.... if so... she likely has bpd. I think they all have it to a degree... just different brands and flavors of it....
 

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Firstly.. check to make sure she has a vagina.... if so... she likely has bpd. I think they all have it to a degree... just different brands and flavors of it....
True. Everyone who had a mother knows how to spot a bpd. 99% of them like this
 

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Oh, it seems my chicken comment has been removed without any explanation...

Cowardly men who gives permission to women to bully them mercilessly until they hv some sort of PTSD just need to be a little wee bit braver.

Next time a little weak girl bullies you, learn to say NO.

So easy. I've medically cured you men.

Y'all can call me Dr. Spaz now.
 

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Most narcissists aren’t going to invite you inside their house. And if they do it won’t be until months of knowing them, it’s the weirdest thing.
Who said anything about narcissists? I was talking about a bpd woman, not a npd one.
It took me 4 months to get inside of a npd gal's house for what it's worth. So yeah I'm talking about bpd only.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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