"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How to spot or test for BPD woman?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
^^^ this right here
Bible_Belt
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Bible_Belt
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Every ex is THE WORST PERSON IN THE WORLD. But you are the best person in the world...for now.
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BPD Resources for understanding and recovery
Yep. I hate borderlines with a passion. They’re basically narcissists that don’t have a spine. They’ll stab you in the back just as fast, they’re cowards, they talk in vague terms. I wish nothing but bad things to happen to borderlines.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Also, I ALWAYS recommend to guys if they get a chance to hang out at the girl's place, excuse yourself to the bathroom and look in her medicine cabinet for any meds.
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You forgetting about the chanting parts, {shout out loud that jesus christ compels you!}
Most narcissists aren’t going to invite you inside their house. And if they do it won’t be until months of knowing them, it’s the weirdest thing.
Why would you want to do it?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
True. Everyone who had a mother knows how to spot a bpd. 99% of them like this
Cowardly men who gives permission to women to bully them mercilessly until they hv some sort of PTSD just need to be a little wee bit braver.
Next time a little weak girl bullies you, learn to say NO.
So easy. I've medically cured you men.
Y'all can call me Dr. Spaz now.
Who said anything about narcissists? I was talking about a bpd woman, not a npd one.
It took me 4 months to get inside of a npd gal's house for what it's worth. So yeah I'm talking about bpd only.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.