Lol let me explain something to you about BPD people, they’re narcissists with low self esteems. That’s the only difference. They will still manipulate you, rip off your head and **** down your neck. 99% of borderlines are covert narcissists. I have yet to meet a BPD that wasn’t also a narcissist. They go together like peanut butter and jelly.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How to spot or test for BPD woman?
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- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Don’t try to separate the terms. When it comes to personality disorders there’s a high degree of comorbidity, i.e., if she’s got one condition, she’ll likely have others to a certain degree…
Hence, the term Cluster B.
Man they are all literally crazy, even the NYPD ones
I knew a girl that displayed ALL the signs of BPD in the first 6 months of our relationship. Then came the next 6 months and she was less BPD and started showing her covert narcissist side. The BPD I can handle to a certain degree, the NPD......that’s another story.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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^^^I third this.
People with personality disorders are attracted to trouble like moths to a flame. If a woman has a history of bad relationships, run. Even if she is nothing but nice to you, she will eventually make a life decision that will kick your life square in the nuts.
One of my good female friends is BPD, she's very much aware of her diagnosis and told me about it herself. She's a good person, and I love her dearly, but I also know that I can never date or bang her. I admit that the urge to save her has been strong in the past, but I know trouble when I see it. She checks six or seven of the boxes in the image below
BPD people are incapable of self-control in the long term.
This is spot on they are a victim, every relationship they've been in that has failed isn't their fault, they usually hate one of their family members. I learned a lot being with a BPD never again would I get involved with a BPD, you can't fix them they are damaged goods. The longer your with them the more comfortable they get then you will see their ugly side come out. Trust me once you've opened pandora's box there is no going back. You have to get her to dump you, if you dump her she will go off her rocker you'll trigger her abandoment issues then your life will turn to living hell.
If you're a mature, stable person you don't even need to say no. Their behavior repels you anyway.
However if you're young, inexerienced, thirsty, knowing a little bit about mental illnesses could save you time and trouble.
Instead of learning how to be more chicken-like by participating in more chicken talk, why don't they learn to just say NO when a little girl bullies them?
Ok, maybe that's the difference. I went out with two different gals that exhibited one or the other but not both. The difference is I only went out with them for a few months. Maybe if I stayed longer, I might've seen the other side(s) to them as well.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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For me I listen to how they talk. If how they talk sounds like you are listening to the news it's a red flag to me. Some girls will talk about the reaction, but never the cause. Like all their friends are horrible people because of all the things they do to her for no reason. She won't talk about the lousy thing she just did to them 5 minutes before that rightfully made them mad enough to do something back to her. Here's a story... my X called me once upset because her friend made her pay for an Uber and didn't offer to pitch in. White knight offers to go pick her up so she wouldn't get caught twice. Turns out her friend got her tickets valued at over $200 for the event they went to and what she ended up paying was actually a great deal considering everything.