"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to quit ?

AlexTheGreat

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I went on 4 dates with this chick, heavy make-out and some more, but she doesn't interest me anymore. How should I go about "stopping" with her ? Just not call her anymore ? There's nothing serious between us (obviously, after 4 dates ... lol), so is it necessary to "talk to her about it", or would she get the actions alone ?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Well if you are looking for a LTR then just stop seeing her.

But if you are in it for some action, then stick with her.

Could you also expand a bit on your post? If you are in it for action, it looks like shes interested, so why not continue?
 

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He's not interested, it does it matter why.

I know some girls get pissed if you jst stop calling them instead of telling them you don't want to go out anymore. Don't call and if she calls you tell her you don't want to go out anymore.
 

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Right but if he wasn't interested, why did he date her on 4 seperate occasions? Need some clarification.
 
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Originally posted by Zod
Right but if he wasn't interested, why did he date her on 4 seperate occasions? Need some clarification.
It can take a few dates to decide if you do or don't like someone. I think the questions academic.

Just be honest, thats what I say. LJBF her if you're feeling a bit chicken.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by aftershock
It can take a few dates to decide if you do or don't like someone. I think the questions academic.

Just be honest, thats what I say. LJBF her if you're feeling a bit chicken.
What's he after though? A LTR, or a physical one?
 
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