"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to quit ?

AlexTheGreat

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I went on 4 dates with this chick, heavy make-out and some more, but she doesn't interest me anymore. How should I go about "stopping" with her ? Just not call her anymore ? There's nothing serious between us (obviously, after 4 dates ... lol), so is it necessary to "talk to her about it", or would she get the actions alone ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Zod

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Well if you are looking for a LTR then just stop seeing her.

But if you are in it for some action, then stick with her.

Could you also expand a bit on your post? If you are in it for action, it looks like shes interested, so why not continue?
 

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He's not interested, it does it matter why.

I know some girls get pissed if you jst stop calling them instead of telling them you don't want to go out anymore. Don't call and if she calls you tell her you don't want to go out anymore.
 

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Right but if he wasn't interested, why did he date her on 4 seperate occasions? Need some clarification.
 
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Originally posted by Zod
Right but if he wasn't interested, why did he date her on 4 seperate occasions? Need some clarification.
It can take a few dates to decide if you do or don't like someone. I think the questions academic.

Just be honest, thats what I say. LJBF her if you're feeling a bit chicken.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by aftershock
It can take a few dates to decide if you do or don't like someone. I think the questions academic.

Just be honest, thats what I say. LJBF her if you're feeling a bit chicken.
What's he after though? A LTR, or a physical one?
 
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