RichardTheFrog
Banned
Through my drunken haze last night, I can remember several times when I had opportunities to start conversations, but didn't.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How to properly introduce yourself at a bar?
- Thread starter RichardTheFrog
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Trailboss
Don Juan
The easiest way to start a "banter"...? She approaches you and says something like "Hey Sailor...buy me a drink"? You look at her critically and say "I'm sorry...did you lose your job today"? She will probably laugh or snort a bit...say "No...I have a job"! And you say "Then No...I won't buy you a drink...but you can buy me one! And if I like you, I will return the favor". Something like that...anything other then "Sure...I'll buy you a drink". Cus then you are fooked.....
logicallefty
Moderator
All women have a phone and few can put it down. I have busted on that. Something like
"Hey Siri from your phone just called me and she told me to tell you she's exhausted and wants you to put her down and give her a break!"
Have your convo, then to close:
"I forgot to save the number when Siri called. Go ahead and give it to me again"
"Hey Siri from your phone just called me and she told me to tell you she's exhausted and wants you to put her down and give her a break!"
Have your convo, then to close:
"I forgot to save the number when Siri called. Go ahead and give it to me again"
Move your feet & open your mouth. Intent. Then, action. These are the only two steps that are completely necessarily to a successful approach. Everything else can be detrimental or beneficial, but none of that matters unless you take the first two steps.
Next comes strong eye contact. You have to be unapologetic & honest in your intent. Then you just have to keep talking. Even if she likes you, she may not know what to say and it might take her brain a couple minutes to warm up to the situation.
If I can't think of anything situational to comment on, I just say, "Hey, I want you to meet me." Straightforward. Simple. Low pressure. Sets the frame that you're the prize. From there, just cold reads to get her talking about herself. Doesn't really matter what you say but just keep things positive and fun. The most important thing is how you feel about yourself.
If things go poorly just say, great meeting you, have an awesome night, smile and walk away & open the next set.
Next comes strong eye contact. You have to be unapologetic & honest in your intent. Then you just have to keep talking. Even if she likes you, she may not know what to say and it might take her brain a couple minutes to warm up to the situation.
If I can't think of anything situational to comment on, I just say, "Hey, I want you to meet me." Straightforward. Simple. Low pressure. Sets the frame that you're the prize. From there, just cold reads to get her talking about herself. Doesn't really matter what you say but just keep things positive and fun. The most important thing is how you feel about yourself.
If things go poorly just say, great meeting you, have an awesome night, smile and walk away & open the next set.
dustmuffin
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Ask the girl, do you know Ricard the frog. She says no. Then say would you like to meet him while holding out your hand.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Don't drink so much next time, have a water between every drink so you're not so buzzed. Then just approach and say, hi my name is.... You'll know within a couple minutes whether she is curious or not. Don't complicate it.
RichardTheFrog
Banned
A couple minutes is a super long time for a conversation.
One time, I tried the 3 second rule, I ended up just standing there with nothing to say after 3 seconds.
If you introduce yourself and a woman completely blows you off that's one thing... but generally, women will entertain a conversation with you for a few minutes regardless. This is where you can gauge her initial interest level. Being buzzed or completely drunk will naturally lower your social skills, so that's why I suggest to taper the drinking while you're out.