You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
nonchalant said:
And have presence, style, social proof, and confidence.wutangfinancial said:How to pick up college girls: be good looking.
The video actually gives decent advice. Not the end-all-be-all, but I got some lays out of participating in a recreation club in undergrad.Effington said:Wow, that guy was brilliant. I feel enlightened.
PS - Please give me my two minutes back.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
LOL I was already laughing when I saw this thread, I've been trying for years and haven't got even close, so I somehow doubt there's a little magic secret waiting in the shadows. Tall, affluent, average-good looking white men take the women, the rest are just scraps fought out amongst the rest where a few get lucky. That's what I've learnt and that's what I know. The rest is just talk and BS.wutangfinancial said:How to pick up college girls: be good looking.
I bet it's because you're negative, low on confidence, and don't have style.Mad Manic said:LOL I was already laughing when I saw this thread, I've been trying for years and haven't got even close, so I somehow doubt there's a little magic secret waiting in the shadows. Tall, affluent, average-good looking white men take the women, the rest are just scraps fought out amongst the rest where a few get lucky. That's what I've learnt and that's what I know. The rest is just talk and BS.
MM
I'd say those things apply to me now due to my experiences and basically giving up, but for the first two years and certainly the first year I was confident, bubbly, stylish etc. All I got was 1/2 kiss closes, the odd number and just faffing about with little interest. I've tried changing things and doing CA's, again I got to a certain level then it never progresses due to low IL. I've tried and tried but the girl doesn't show interest for 1-1 dates. I just see tall affluent white guys with gf's whilst me and my friends never get anything, so what do you want me to think?Corona said:I bet it's because you're negative, low on confidence, and don't have style.
Well, you can either give up, or accept that it's a numbers game and keep gaming.Mad Manic said:I'd say those things apply to me now due to my experiences and basically giving up but for the first two years and certainly the first year I was confident, bubbly, stylish etc. All I got was 1/2 kiss closes, the odd number and just faffing about with little interest. I've tried changing things and doing CA's, again I got to a certain level then it never progresses due to low IL. I've tried and tried but the girl doesn't show interest for 1-1 dates. I just see tall affluent white guys with gf's whilst me and my friends never get anything, so what do you want me to think?
At my best, that's me looking good, stylish, confident and chirpy, all I can do is get numbers and kiss closes. It never goes further, and that's when I'm at my best so my appearance and sociability is highest.
I've still never had anyone on here tell me why the girls never date me 1-1, but that's not their perogative.
MM
Why would you want to date? I can't think of anything worse.Mad Manic said:I've still never had anyone on here tell me why the girls never date me 1-1, but that's not their perogative.
MM
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I never got any dates. I'd just chat the girls up for a fair while, sometimes get a number, occassionally a kiss close, nothing more. I've gone through spells of trying really hard and just getting nowhere. The girls seem interested but once I start to try and initiate a date it goes nowhere. Sometimes I don't try to initiate anything and they still don't want anything to do with me.Corona said:Well, you can either give up, or accept that it's a numbers game and keep gaming.
At best, you might get a date with a girl that's really into you and everything works out perfect, and at worst, you will gain experience and find out what works and what doesn't work at gaming girls.
You not being able to progress past a couple dates and a kiss close signifies some problems with your game (or a problem with the girl, on occasion). If it was a problem with society, you would have never got the date in the first place (numbers don't mean anything).
Maybe it's just a case of different places having different moulds for guys/girls as to what's considered desirable. The 'cool black guy' thing works much better in the US than in the UK. In either case, I'm neither black nor white so I'd never fit in any sort of ideals.wolf116 said:It is seriously very frustrating for me to hear you guys go on about height and race. When I (6'2, white, athletic) have to watch my short and black friends (Indian and pacific islander) pickup HB8's HB9's with ease while I go home to bat.
I honestly believe black guys have it easer.
You have other issues.
I tried that, it's not working for me... I mean I just stand there and look like a GQ model, but people just ask me "Why are you standing there and pouting?"wutangfinancial said:How to pick up college girls: be good looking.
I'm in Australia and my friend is half cast and it is not considered "cool" to be Indian or islander. They just ooze charisma and confidence.Mad Manic said:Maybe it's just a case of different places having different moulds for guys/girls as what's considered desirable. The 'cool black guy' thing works much better in the US than in the UK. In either case, I'm neither black nor white so I'd never fit in any sort of ideals.
MM
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
wolf116 said:It is seriously very frustrating for me to hear you guys go on about height and race. When I (6'2, white, athletic) have to watch my short and black friends (Indian and pacific islander) pickup HB8's HB9's with ease while I go home to bat.
I honestly believe black guys have it easer.
You have other issues.
Then why can't I see them at night unless they smile?ARrocket said:Dude, Indian and Pacific Islander are NOT synonymous with black....
Also, same person in a different environment = same problems. Wherever you go, you stay the same because of trait characteristics unless you choose to make a difference in your confidence. Inner confidence & happiness = successful external projection of thy self.If you put MM in a tall, white body he will still have the same problems, just a different excuse.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.