Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
nonchalant said:
And have presence, style, social proof, and confidence.wutangfinancial said:How to pick up college girls: be good looking.
The video actually gives decent advice. Not the end-all-be-all, but I got some lays out of participating in a recreation club in undergrad.Effington said:Wow, that guy was brilliant. I feel enlightened.
PS - Please give me my two minutes back.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
LOL I was already laughing when I saw this thread, I've been trying for years and haven't got even close, so I somehow doubt there's a little magic secret waiting in the shadows. Tall, affluent, average-good looking white men take the women, the rest are just scraps fought out amongst the rest where a few get lucky. That's what I've learnt and that's what I know. The rest is just talk and BS.wutangfinancial said:How to pick up college girls: be good looking.
I bet it's because you're negative, low on confidence, and don't have style.Mad Manic said:LOL I was already laughing when I saw this thread, I've been trying for years and haven't got even close, so I somehow doubt there's a little magic secret waiting in the shadows. Tall, affluent, average-good looking white men take the women, the rest are just scraps fought out amongst the rest where a few get lucky. That's what I've learnt and that's what I know. The rest is just talk and BS.
MM
I'd say those things apply to me now due to my experiences and basically giving up, but for the first two years and certainly the first year I was confident, bubbly, stylish etc. All I got was 1/2 kiss closes, the odd number and just faffing about with little interest. I've tried changing things and doing CA's, again I got to a certain level then it never progresses due to low IL. I've tried and tried but the girl doesn't show interest for 1-1 dates. I just see tall affluent white guys with gf's whilst me and my friends never get anything, so what do you want me to think?Corona said:I bet it's because you're negative, low on confidence, and don't have style.
Well, you can either give up, or accept that it's a numbers game and keep gaming.Mad Manic said:I'd say those things apply to me now due to my experiences and basically giving up but for the first two years and certainly the first year I was confident, bubbly, stylish etc. All I got was 1/2 kiss closes, the odd number and just faffing about with little interest. I've tried changing things and doing CA's, again I got to a certain level then it never progresses due to low IL. I've tried and tried but the girl doesn't show interest for 1-1 dates. I just see tall affluent white guys with gf's whilst me and my friends never get anything, so what do you want me to think?
At my best, that's me looking good, stylish, confident and chirpy, all I can do is get numbers and kiss closes. It never goes further, and that's when I'm at my best so my appearance and sociability is highest.
I've still never had anyone on here tell me why the girls never date me 1-1, but that's not their perogative.
MM
Why would you want to date? I can't think of anything worse.Mad Manic said:I've still never had anyone on here tell me why the girls never date me 1-1, but that's not their perogative.
MM
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I never got any dates. I'd just chat the girls up for a fair while, sometimes get a number, occassionally a kiss close, nothing more. I've gone through spells of trying really hard and just getting nowhere. The girls seem interested but once I start to try and initiate a date it goes nowhere. Sometimes I don't try to initiate anything and they still don't want anything to do with me.Corona said:Well, you can either give up, or accept that it's a numbers game and keep gaming.
At best, you might get a date with a girl that's really into you and everything works out perfect, and at worst, you will gain experience and find out what works and what doesn't work at gaming girls.
You not being able to progress past a couple dates and a kiss close signifies some problems with your game (or a problem with the girl, on occasion). If it was a problem with society, you would have never got the date in the first place (numbers don't mean anything).
Maybe it's just a case of different places having different moulds for guys/girls as to what's considered desirable. The 'cool black guy' thing works much better in the US than in the UK. In either case, I'm neither black nor white so I'd never fit in any sort of ideals.wolf116 said:It is seriously very frustrating for me to hear you guys go on about height and race. When I (6'2, white, athletic) have to watch my short and black friends (Indian and pacific islander) pickup HB8's HB9's with ease while I go home to bat.
I honestly believe black guys have it easer.
You have other issues.
I tried that, it's not working for me... I mean I just stand there and look like a GQ model, but people just ask me "Why are you standing there and pouting?"wutangfinancial said:How to pick up college girls: be good looking.
I'm in Australia and my friend is half cast and it is not considered "cool" to be Indian or islander. They just ooze charisma and confidence.Mad Manic said:Maybe it's just a case of different places having different moulds for guys/girls as what's considered desirable. The 'cool black guy' thing works much better in the US than in the UK. In either case, I'm neither black nor white so I'd never fit in any sort of ideals.
MM
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
wolf116 said:It is seriously very frustrating for me to hear you guys go on about height and race. When I (6'2, white, athletic) have to watch my short and black friends (Indian and pacific islander) pickup HB8's HB9's with ease while I go home to bat.
I honestly believe black guys have it easer.
You have other issues.
Then why can't I see them at night unless they smile?ARrocket said:Dude, Indian and Pacific Islander are NOT synonymous with black....
Also, same person in a different environment = same problems. Wherever you go, you stay the same because of trait characteristics unless you choose to make a difference in your confidence. Inner confidence & happiness = successful external projection of thy self.If you put MM in a tall, white body he will still have the same problems, just a different excuse.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.