Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
nonchalant said:
And have presence, style, social proof, and confidence.wutangfinancial said:How to pick up college girls: be good looking.
The video actually gives decent advice. Not the end-all-be-all, but I got some lays out of participating in a recreation club in undergrad.Effington said:Wow, that guy was brilliant. I feel enlightened.
PS - Please give me my two minutes back.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
LOL I was already laughing when I saw this thread, I've been trying for years and haven't got even close, so I somehow doubt there's a little magic secret waiting in the shadows. Tall, affluent, average-good looking white men take the women, the rest are just scraps fought out amongst the rest where a few get lucky. That's what I've learnt and that's what I know. The rest is just talk and BS.wutangfinancial said:How to pick up college girls: be good looking.
I bet it's because you're negative, low on confidence, and don't have style.Mad Manic said:LOL I was already laughing when I saw this thread, I've been trying for years and haven't got even close, so I somehow doubt there's a little magic secret waiting in the shadows. Tall, affluent, average-good looking white men take the women, the rest are just scraps fought out amongst the rest where a few get lucky. That's what I've learnt and that's what I know. The rest is just talk and BS.
MM
I'd say those things apply to me now due to my experiences and basically giving up, but for the first two years and certainly the first year I was confident, bubbly, stylish etc. All I got was 1/2 kiss closes, the odd number and just faffing about with little interest. I've tried changing things and doing CA's, again I got to a certain level then it never progresses due to low IL. I've tried and tried but the girl doesn't show interest for 1-1 dates. I just see tall affluent white guys with gf's whilst me and my friends never get anything, so what do you want me to think?Corona said:I bet it's because you're negative, low on confidence, and don't have style.
Well, you can either give up, or accept that it's a numbers game and keep gaming.Mad Manic said:I'd say those things apply to me now due to my experiences and basically giving up but for the first two years and certainly the first year I was confident, bubbly, stylish etc. All I got was 1/2 kiss closes, the odd number and just faffing about with little interest. I've tried changing things and doing CA's, again I got to a certain level then it never progresses due to low IL. I've tried and tried but the girl doesn't show interest for 1-1 dates. I just see tall affluent white guys with gf's whilst me and my friends never get anything, so what do you want me to think?
At my best, that's me looking good, stylish, confident and chirpy, all I can do is get numbers and kiss closes. It never goes further, and that's when I'm at my best so my appearance and sociability is highest.
I've still never had anyone on here tell me why the girls never date me 1-1, but that's not their perogative.
MM
Why would you want to date? I can't think of anything worse.Mad Manic said:I've still never had anyone on here tell me why the girls never date me 1-1, but that's not their perogative.
MM
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I never got any dates. I'd just chat the girls up for a fair while, sometimes get a number, occassionally a kiss close, nothing more. I've gone through spells of trying really hard and just getting nowhere. The girls seem interested but once I start to try and initiate a date it goes nowhere. Sometimes I don't try to initiate anything and they still don't want anything to do with me.Corona said:Well, you can either give up, or accept that it's a numbers game and keep gaming.
At best, you might get a date with a girl that's really into you and everything works out perfect, and at worst, you will gain experience and find out what works and what doesn't work at gaming girls.
You not being able to progress past a couple dates and a kiss close signifies some problems with your game (or a problem with the girl, on occasion). If it was a problem with society, you would have never got the date in the first place (numbers don't mean anything).
Maybe it's just a case of different places having different moulds for guys/girls as to what's considered desirable. The 'cool black guy' thing works much better in the US than in the UK. In either case, I'm neither black nor white so I'd never fit in any sort of ideals.wolf116 said:It is seriously very frustrating for me to hear you guys go on about height and race. When I (6'2, white, athletic) have to watch my short and black friends (Indian and pacific islander) pickup HB8's HB9's with ease while I go home to bat.
I honestly believe black guys have it easer.
You have other issues.
I tried that, it's not working for me... I mean I just stand there and look like a GQ model, but people just ask me "Why are you standing there and pouting?"wutangfinancial said:How to pick up college girls: be good looking.
I'm in Australia and my friend is half cast and it is not considered "cool" to be Indian or islander. They just ooze charisma and confidence.Mad Manic said:Maybe it's just a case of different places having different moulds for guys/girls as what's considered desirable. The 'cool black guy' thing works much better in the US than in the UK. In either case, I'm neither black nor white so I'd never fit in any sort of ideals.
MM
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
wolf116 said:It is seriously very frustrating for me to hear you guys go on about height and race. When I (6'2, white, athletic) have to watch my short and black friends (Indian and pacific islander) pickup HB8's HB9's with ease while I go home to bat.
I honestly believe black guys have it easer.
You have other issues.
Then why can't I see them at night unless they smile?ARrocket said:Dude, Indian and Pacific Islander are NOT synonymous with black....
Also, same person in a different environment = same problems. Wherever you go, you stay the same because of trait characteristics unless you choose to make a difference in your confidence. Inner confidence & happiness = successful external projection of thy self.If you put MM in a tall, white body he will still have the same problems, just a different excuse.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.