On the subject of sh*t tests, yesterday met a girl on a meetup night and after it ended up going on a date with her. However some of her questions seemed weird for a first date, namely "why are you single?", "what car do you drive?", "What went wrong between you and your ex?". Are these normal sh*t tests to begin with?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How to Minimize Sh!t tests
- Thread starter Atom Smasher
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Anyone?
CMNILS87
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Why are you single? I haven't found a girl worth investing my time in or commitment.
What kind of car do you drive? It has 4 wheels, and a big backseat to make out in.
What happened with your ex? It didn't work out. I won't go into a lot of detail, but there are some things that she continually did I didn't approve of and I just decided to walk away.
Always frame the response in you having the most value in any situation.