On the subject of sh*t tests, yesterday met a girl on a meetup night and after it ended up going on a date with her. However some of her questions seemed weird for a first date, namely "why are you single?", "what car do you drive?", "What went wrong between you and your ex?". Are these normal sh*t tests to begin with?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How to Minimize Sh!t tests
- Thread starter Atom Smasher
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Anyone?
CMNILS87
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Why are you single? I haven't found a girl worth investing my time in or commitment.
What kind of car do you drive? It has 4 wheels, and a big backseat to make out in.
What happened with your ex? It didn't work out. I won't go into a lot of detail, but there are some things that she continually did I didn't approve of and I just decided to walk away.
Always frame the response in you having the most value in any situation.