On the subject of sh*t tests, yesterday met a girl on a meetup night and after it ended up going on a date with her. However some of her questions seemed weird for a first date, namely "why are you single?", "what car do you drive?", "What went wrong between you and your ex?". Are these normal sh*t tests to begin with?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How to Minimize Sh!t tests
- Thread starter Atom Smasher
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Anyone?
CMNILS87
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Why are you single? I haven't found a girl worth investing my time in or commitment.
What kind of car do you drive? It has 4 wheels, and a big backseat to make out in.
What happened with your ex? It didn't work out. I won't go into a lot of detail, but there are some things that she continually did I didn't approve of and I just decided to walk away.
Always frame the response in you having the most value in any situation.