On the subject of sh*t tests, yesterday met a girl on a meetup night and after it ended up going on a date with her. However some of her questions seemed weird for a first date, namely "why are you single?", "what car do you drive?", "What went wrong between you and your ex?". Are these normal sh*t tests to begin with?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How to Minimize Sh!t tests
- Thread starter Atom Smasher
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Anyone?
CMNILS87
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Why are you single? I haven't found a girl worth investing my time in or commitment.
What kind of car do you drive? It has 4 wheels, and a big backseat to make out in.
What happened with your ex? It didn't work out. I won't go into a lot of detail, but there are some things that she continually did I didn't approve of and I just decided to walk away.
Always frame the response in you having the most value in any situation.