She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thank you! Glad someone said it.guru1000 said:And yet you have no humility with these numbers??
Sir come on now, you know I have never stated that I was a "Guru" at anything, be it finance, women, working out, etc. So why would you just flat out lie sir?BeTheChange said:...By many people's perceptions OP is not successful at all and yet he champions himself as the board's financial guru.
Really? If it were my goal to be a millionaire and it took me that long to get there, I would have to look back at my life and say that I had a lot of setbacks and failures, but I would be happy that I persisted, never gave up, and finally reached my goal. It's all in your perspective.BeTheChange said:If it took me to 40, 45 or 50 - can't remember exactly when OP expects to hit the mil target - to be a millionaire I would view my life as an abject failure.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Guru’s PM Response to TenacitySo I've requested that based on our differences, we just stop talking/discussing and go our separate ways. But like a damn female, you literally won't stop the bickering.
So I'm PMing you directly, if you want to have a telephone conversation to sort this out, I can do that this afternoon. What is the best line to reach you?
But I'm not going back and forth with you anymore on a Discussion Board. Either you are trolling, high on something, flaming, or flat out ignorant.
Also, if you copy and paste this message BACK into the Forum, I will use this message as proof to the Moderators on this Board that I tried to resolve our issues privately through PM and you STILL bought it back into the Forum.
The rules of the Forum is that when two people are having issues (like we supposedly have) then they sort it out in private. So that's what I'm attempting to do.
And now this post above? LOL.No need to speak about this. You stay out of my threads and I stay out of yours. Don't make any inferences to me and contrariwise.
When did you send thisNo need to speak about this. You stay out of my threads and I stay out of yours. Don't make any inferences to me and contrariwise.
Dude, what part of I'm DONE discussing/debating shyt with you on a Discussion Board don't you understand? We can talk through PM.guru1000 said:And now this post above? LOL.
Ok, let’s get back to the convo:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.