Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thank you! Glad someone said it.guru1000 said:And yet you have no humility with these numbers??
Sir come on now, you know I have never stated that I was a "Guru" at anything, be it finance, women, working out, etc. So why would you just flat out lie sir?BeTheChange said:...By many people's perceptions OP is not successful at all and yet he champions himself as the board's financial guru.
Really? If it were my goal to be a millionaire and it took me that long to get there, I would have to look back at my life and say that I had a lot of setbacks and failures, but I would be happy that I persisted, never gave up, and finally reached my goal. It's all in your perspective.BeTheChange said:If it took me to 40, 45 or 50 - can't remember exactly when OP expects to hit the mil target - to be a millionaire I would view my life as an abject failure.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Guru’s PM Response to TenacitySo I've requested that based on our differences, we just stop talking/discussing and go our separate ways. But like a damn female, you literally won't stop the bickering.
So I'm PMing you directly, if you want to have a telephone conversation to sort this out, I can do that this afternoon. What is the best line to reach you?
But I'm not going back and forth with you anymore on a Discussion Board. Either you are trolling, high on something, flaming, or flat out ignorant.
Also, if you copy and paste this message BACK into the Forum, I will use this message as proof to the Moderators on this Board that I tried to resolve our issues privately through PM and you STILL bought it back into the Forum.
The rules of the Forum is that when two people are having issues (like we supposedly have) then they sort it out in private. So that's what I'm attempting to do.
And now this post above? LOL.No need to speak about this. You stay out of my threads and I stay out of yours. Don't make any inferences to me and contrariwise.
When did you send thisNo need to speak about this. You stay out of my threads and I stay out of yours. Don't make any inferences to me and contrariwise.
Dude, what part of I'm DONE discussing/debating shyt with you on a Discussion Board don't you understand? We can talk through PM.guru1000 said:And now this post above? LOL.
Ok, let’s get back to the convo:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.