"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How to kill the ego?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Exercise 1:
Delete their number after the first date.
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You can't "learn" how or how not to develop an ego.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
...and is usually the result of insecurity and low self-esteem. Egotistical people tend to doubt their own abilities, and feel the need to prove to themselves and others that they're awesome and successful... Even if it's true, and they know it. They still need to remind everyone of this fact over and over. But then, when they fail, or people doubt or disbelieve their awesomeness, and they can't prove them otherwise, it hits them real hard... because it's all they have, and thrive for. They need constant validation and approval from others.BeginningDJ said:
The ego can definitely work against you, and it's easy to slip into an "untouchable" mindset when enough praise is granted, and success is achieved... especially when it's all new to you.
Just don't care what others think, don't feel the need to prove anything or brag about your accomplishments, and don't let success get to your head - to where you think you're above the rest... 'cause they'll just knock your ass down.
Take every success and failure as it is... no big deal, and doesn't mean anything for the future. You could succeed thrice, then fail after. Doesn't mean ****; nothing is guaranteed. Take pride in your accomplishments, but don't dwell on them.
Being humble is pretty easy. Just be friendly and normal, and don't act like a conceited jackass, or think everything comes easy; it's no problem for you; you're better and more gifted than others, because you're so awesome.
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I accept the fact that I will continue learning for the rest of my life.
So I don't think of myself as better than other people.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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I don't know which type of people you have met then. Maybe living in the Philippines impairs your judgement. It is a very different culture that you are experiencing compared to America. If you can do everything you say, you are truly untouchable. It's joined together with being superior. You can always choose to be humble to please other people and not make them feel bad or less. However, it is plausible that you can state how superior you are and show exactly that. What's wrong with saying you are going to do something and doing just that?zinc4 said:
sharkbeat
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I find that guys with thick egos are damn afraid of trying new things, because they know, they will get their cover blown, that they are not as cool as they think they are.
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http://www.noahhammond.com/what-is-ego/
Thise two articles explain ego vs self esteem perfectly and will tell you how to owrcome it.
-There is no enemy outside of ones perception of oneself