"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to keep the power, what's her issue

Stephen89

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My sister ignored me for years 2005-2012, reacted angrily, spoke angrily,selfish, bossy in the house, put me down a lot, not reciprocate anything, disrespectful, not tell anything ever, lie, play games, self absorbed, spoke to me with one word

Do not reciprocate anything to me,

Personal to me why does she want to know,

Don´t say nothing, don´t reciprocate

Twists things such as evidence

Don´t stand up, never, leaves things

Never know

She says nothing ever

Disrespect

She said why do I wish to know the music

Tells any info

Tells nothing to me

Never listen, disrespect, tells nothing,

She controls

She doesn´t care, she just ruins my dignity

She says nothing to me

-+++

And she believed anything people say, they could make fake stuff up

Overall, what´s her problem, she´s gone against me, and her own parents

Over the top narcissist

But why and she didn't stand up to me to that cousin bully, she tells lies and tells nothing to me, a complete disregard for me and my father

She says everything to them, nothing to me ever

-+++++--+

and made it look like in the problem

she did not say nothing to him, she said you say it, she lied

She doesn't listen to me approaching women and don't tell others

Overall what's her problem? It ruins my dignity, takes away my power

She said regarding the years I've endured bullying, abuse from the cousin

"all in my head"

"I've got Mental issues"

"That cousin has done nothing wrong"

"You say it that I've reported him"

"If you got issues speak to him"-im not the one with t problem

"Why don't you talk to him"

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She made me look like a liar when I reported the cousin to the police a few times, the quotes are her words, she did not stand up to me and she for sure will get angry

She says nothing to me and for sure, a liar, disrespectful, twist things, give out any info

How to keep the power and not give it away:

-never be there
-keep my distance
-be away
-dont care
-dont think
-dont engage with them
-be silent
-Ignore
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Stephen89

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I don't know what to do with the games played, emotional abuse
 

BackInTheGame78

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Sounds like you have some deep seated personal issues you need to deal with and have issues with family membera at the same time.

You've got to find a way to let all of it go. Not for them, for your own sake and mental health.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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BillyPilgrim

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Pretty simple, keep your distance as much as you can. Don't engage unless you have to.
 
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