"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to keep the power, what's her issue

Stephen89

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My sister ignored me for years 2005-2012, reacted angrily, spoke angrily,selfish, bossy in the house, put me down a lot, not reciprocate anything, disrespectful, not tell anything ever, lie, play games, self absorbed, spoke to me with one word

Do not reciprocate anything to me,

Personal to me why does she want to know,

Don´t say nothing, don´t reciprocate

Twists things such as evidence

Don´t stand up, never, leaves things

Never know

She says nothing ever

Disrespect

She said why do I wish to know the music

Tells any info

Tells nothing to me

Never listen, disrespect, tells nothing,

She controls

She doesn´t care, she just ruins my dignity

She says nothing to me

-+++

And she believed anything people say, they could make fake stuff up

Overall, what´s her problem, she´s gone against me, and her own parents

Over the top narcissist

But why and she didn't stand up to me to that cousin bully, she tells lies and tells nothing to me, a complete disregard for me and my father

She says everything to them, nothing to me ever

-+++++--+

and made it look like in the problem

she did not say nothing to him, she said you say it, she lied

She doesn't listen to me approaching women and don't tell others

Overall what's her problem? It ruins my dignity, takes away my power

She said regarding the years I've endured bullying, abuse from the cousin

"all in my head"

"I've got Mental issues"

"That cousin has done nothing wrong"

"You say it that I've reported him"

"If you got issues speak to him"-im not the one with t problem

"Why don't you talk to him"

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She made me look like a liar when I reported the cousin to the police a few times, the quotes are her words, she did not stand up to me and she for sure will get angry

She says nothing to me and for sure, a liar, disrespectful, twist things, give out any info

How to keep the power and not give it away:

-never be there
-keep my distance
-be away
-dont care
-dont think
-dont engage with them
-be silent
-Ignore
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Stephen89

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I don't know what to do with the games played, emotional abuse
 

BackInTheGame78

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Sounds like you have some deep seated personal issues you need to deal with and have issues with family membera at the same time.

You've got to find a way to let all of it go. Not for them, for your own sake and mental health.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BillyPilgrim

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Pretty simple, keep your distance as much as you can. Don't engage unless you have to.
 
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