Ok I have been talking to a girl that I met on POF for the last 2 days. I asked her to hang out this week and she said that would be cool but she can't til next weekend because she has her kids til then. What should I say to this? Should I try to set up a date anyways or what? I really don't want to have to text her for the next week and a half before I actually get to meet her because I'm afraid she will probably lose interest by then. Any help would be great.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How to keep girl interested before the first date?
- Thread starter adamw5963
- Start date
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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adamw5963 said:
If she likes your pictures and you don't seem crazy or like a dork, then she'll want to meet you. If not, then she'll keep making excuses.
What I'm saying is, if she's seriously interested, then her attraction is already there. You're not going to build it any higher via electronic devices.
Reach out to her later on about next weekend. And maybe along the way, send a text or two just to keep in contact. Remember: a text or two - not a whole text conversation.
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You do have more plates right?
Judge nismo knows that if a woman wants to see you, she'll move a mountain to see you.
Here, you need to not go AFC, and if you text, text minimally. If you call, do so to set up the date. This should take 5 minutes MAX, and YOU are the one who must end the conversation. :yes:
Never put all your eggs in one basket. You need to spin more plates until then and always.
Case closed.
Judge nismo knows that if a woman wants to see you, she'll move a mountain to see you.
Here, you need to not go AFC, and if you text, text minimally. If you call, do so to set up the date. This should take 5 minutes MAX, and YOU are the one who must end the conversation. :yes:
Never put all your eggs in one basket. You need to spin more plates until then and always.
Case closed.
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I do similar, but a day earlier. Tues for Fri and Wed for Sat. That said, I prefer to make actual dates during the week when first starting to date someone. Once we start having sex, then I can commit my prime party nights to going out with a steady plate. Until then it's just low-grade dates that don't chew up my time.Espi said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.