Ok I have been talking to a girl that I met on POF for the last 2 days. I asked her to hang out this week and she said that would be cool but she can't til next weekend because she has her kids til then. What should I say to this? Should I try to set up a date anyways or what? I really don't want to have to text her for the next week and a half before I actually get to meet her because I'm afraid she will probably lose interest by then. Any help would be great.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How to keep girl interested before the first date?
- Thread starter adamw5963
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
adamw5963 said:
If she likes your pictures and you don't seem crazy or like a dork, then she'll want to meet you. If not, then she'll keep making excuses.
What I'm saying is, if she's seriously interested, then her attraction is already there. You're not going to build it any higher via electronic devices.
Reach out to her later on about next weekend. And maybe along the way, send a text or two just to keep in contact. Remember: a text or two - not a whole text conversation.
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You do have more plates right?
Judge nismo knows that if a woman wants to see you, she'll move a mountain to see you.
Here, you need to not go AFC, and if you text, text minimally. If you call, do so to set up the date. This should take 5 minutes MAX, and YOU are the one who must end the conversation. :yes:
Never put all your eggs in one basket. You need to spin more plates until then and always.
Case closed.
Judge nismo knows that if a woman wants to see you, she'll move a mountain to see you.
Here, you need to not go AFC, and if you text, text minimally. If you call, do so to set up the date. This should take 5 minutes MAX, and YOU are the one who must end the conversation. :yes:
Never put all your eggs in one basket. You need to spin more plates until then and always.
Case closed.
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I do similar, but a day earlier. Tues for Fri and Wed for Sat. That said, I prefer to make actual dates during the week when first starting to date someone. Once we start having sex, then I can commit my prime party nights to going out with a steady plate. Until then it's just low-grade dates that don't chew up my time.Espi said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.