Ok I have been talking to a girl that I met on POF for the last 2 days. I asked her to hang out this week and she said that would be cool but she can't til next weekend because she has her kids til then. What should I say to this? Should I try to set up a date anyways or what? I really don't want to have to text her for the next week and a half before I actually get to meet her because I'm afraid she will probably lose interest by then. Any help would be great.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How to keep girl interested before the first date?
- Thread starter adamw5963
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
adamw5963 said:
If she likes your pictures and you don't seem crazy or like a dork, then she'll want to meet you. If not, then she'll keep making excuses.
What I'm saying is, if she's seriously interested, then her attraction is already there. You're not going to build it any higher via electronic devices.
Reach out to her later on about next weekend. And maybe along the way, send a text or two just to keep in contact. Remember: a text or two - not a whole text conversation.
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You do have more plates right?
Judge nismo knows that if a woman wants to see you, she'll move a mountain to see you.
Here, you need to not go AFC, and if you text, text minimally. If you call, do so to set up the date. This should take 5 minutes MAX, and YOU are the one who must end the conversation. :yes:
Never put all your eggs in one basket. You need to spin more plates until then and always.
Case closed.
Judge nismo knows that if a woman wants to see you, she'll move a mountain to see you.
Here, you need to not go AFC, and if you text, text minimally. If you call, do so to set up the date. This should take 5 minutes MAX, and YOU are the one who must end the conversation. :yes:
Never put all your eggs in one basket. You need to spin more plates until then and always.
Case closed.
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I do similar, but a day earlier. Tues for Fri and Wed for Sat. That said, I prefer to make actual dates during the week when first starting to date someone. Once we start having sex, then I can commit my prime party nights to going out with a steady plate. Until then it's just low-grade dates that don't chew up my time.Espi said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.