"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to get the dumb white blondes

steeringclear

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I feel as if I attract a lot of Europeans or latinas or just people from other countries. I have darker features so maybe they’re into that whereas the dumb white blonde chicks usually go for the plain hockey/country boy archetype.

Do any of you guys have tips on breaking getting with these types of white blondes even though the type of guy they prefer isn’t my style at all.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Clockwerk50

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What do you mean by darker features? Are you black, Latino, Indian, or something else?

You’re right that, if you want to cast a wider net, a lot of white women are into the Riley Green look, which mixes the country-boy and lumberjack aesthetics, often with a mullet. Others prefer a clean-cut look, with a French crop, sharp fade, clean-shaven face, and tattoos. You can borrow elements of these styles, such as Carhartt clothing, fitted jeans, boots, flannel shirts, or different hairstyles, without going overboard or looking like you’re trying too hard.

Nonetheless, women have different tastes, and that works in your favour. Some prefer a conventional, all-American look, while others are attracted to novelty, different cultural backgrounds, or a man who offers something different from what they’re used to. Others are drawn to confidence, excitement, or a particular lifestyle. For example, I see attractive white women dating black men with an A$AP Rocky or basketball-player look at the malls near my house. The point is to find women who appreciate your look and what you have to offer, and to know where you’re more likely to meet them. A bear isn’t going to hunt for salmon in a desert.
 

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My experience has always been its tough to break away from what it is you attract.

A friend of mine has darker European features and struggles with the blonde, white American girls. He can get Mexican/Brazilian girls all day long. I'm just the opposite.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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MatureDJ

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Why would you want a dumb woman? I'd rather a pay a dumb woman for it then date her for it. :rolleyes:
 

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I feel as if I attract a lot of Europeans or latinas or just people from other countries. I have darker features so maybe they’re into that whereas the dumb white blonde chicks usually go for the plain hockey/country boy archetype.

Do any of you guys have tips on breaking getting with these types of white blondes even though the type of guy they prefer isn’t my style at all.
Hmmm... I've also got "dark features" and never had difficulties pairing up with blonde gals who are classified Anglo/Aryan. If anything, it's been my observation that this demographic finds us exotic and thus intriguing

Perhaps start by recognizing that these women are actually more pink than they are "white"
 

BillyPilgrim

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Move to Minneapolis. Blonde, white and leftist.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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zekko

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Buy them a bottle of hair color?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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