I have a girl that likes me I want her to come over to my place so we can make out or what not, but I know I can't just tell her that straight up. So do u guys have any suggestions on what to tell to girls so they would be open to coming over?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How to get a girl to come over?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Tao of Steve
Don Juan
while you are talking to her, casually say (dont ask) 'lets go get something to eat at my place'
say it like its the most casual and natural thing to do, not like u r asking her out on a date. pre suppose she wants to do it.
say it like its the most casual and natural thing to do, not like u r asking her out on a date. pre suppose she wants to do it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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HAHAHA!Originally posted by Tao of Steve
while you are talking to her, casually say (dont ask) 'lets go get something to eat at my place'
say it like its the most casual and natural thing to do, not like u r asking her out on a date. pre suppose she wants to do it.
that's awesome..
you are such a manipulater tao of steve..
i like it ..
Austin Allegro
Master Don Juan
In the early stages most women will need some form of ASD to come over to your place. I usually find it works well to say you've thought of a film she'd really like, and you've managed to get the DVD, so why not come over and watch it. Usually works for me.
If your talkn to her on the phone say "Come over and we'll hang out here tonight"
If your out with her say "Let's just go to my place and watch a movie or something"
If it's late and your txting or talking on the phone say "Come cuddle with me".. but dont say it like your demanding it.
You can't really say any of these with a demanding tone because the girl will feel uncomfortable because she knows whats to come and will feel unsafe unless she knows you well. These 3 things work like a charm.
If your out with her say "Let's just go to my place and watch a movie or something"
If it's late and your txting or talking on the phone say "Come cuddle with me".. but dont say it like your demanding it.
You can't really say any of these with a demanding tone because the girl will feel uncomfortable because she knows whats to come and will feel unsafe unless she knows you well. These 3 things work like a charm.