Ok, I want to ask this girl out and I have twice, the first time she said she was going back home to another country, the second time she said NO, so I accepted it as it was. Though I went to a dance and she didn't show up, but her best friend did (they never split up). I am wondering how can I figure out if she has a boyfriend or not, because she "seems" free of one (not one in school). I am on good terms with one of her close friends, but I have only been on these terms for about a month. I also go to a tiny school and I do not want to the entire school to know I like her. What should I do?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How to find out if she has a boyfriend?
- Thread starter Mycroft
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Docs
Banned
Ok, I want to ask this girl out and I have twice, the first time she said she was going back home to another country, the second time she said NO, so I accepted it as it was
There's a such thing as hints. Did she leave? If she didn't, that was your first hint. Second hint, she flat out said No.
And don't lie, you haven't accepted the no if you're still after her.
In the end, move on. Unless it's been "YEARS", (and it appears this is month(s)), she won't change her mind.
There's a such thing as hints. Did she leave? If she didn't, that was your first hint. Second hint, she flat out said No.
And don't lie, you haven't accepted the no if you're still after her.
In the end, move on. Unless it's been "YEARS", (and it appears this is month(s)), she won't change her mind.
Will do, thanks man. Also, she did leave for around a week.Originally posted by Docs
Ok, I want to ask this girl out and I have twice, the first time she said she was going back home to another country, the second time she said NO, so I accepted it as it was
There's a such thing as hints. Did she leave? If she didn't, that was your first hint. Second hint, she flat out said No.
And don't lie, you haven't accepted the no if you're still after her.
In the end, move on. Unless it's been "YEARS", (and it appears this is month(s)), she won't change her mind.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
there is som truth in what DOCS is saying. especially about the yeats, not months thing. I have tried persistence before, and ended up worse then if I had nexted the girl in the first place.Originally posted by Docs
Ok, I want to ask this girl out and I have twice, the first time she said she was going back home to another country, the second time she said NO, so I accepted it as it was
There's a such thing as hints. Did she leave? If she didn't, that was your first hint. Second hint, she flat out said No.
And don't lie, you haven't accepted the no if you're still after her.
In the end, move on. Unless it's been "YEARS", (and it appears this is month(s)), she won't change her mind.
But if you wait years, then she will most likely have matured, as you will most likely, and you might have a better chance then. As it is, she doesn't give a crap about you.
You had better break off the frienship, and show her you are really after a relationship of a higher level then just friendship. You are setting up yourself for LJBF or a similar variation. And that my friend, is the male kiss of death. Not the end of the world, but pretty close to it as far as that girl is concerned.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yes, I can, and I did, and she has a boyfriend, I found out. No biggy on words and up words.Originally posted by Phat
cant u take no for an answere?