Ok, I want to ask this girl out and I have twice, the first time she said she was going back home to another country, the second time she said NO, so I accepted it as it was. Though I went to a dance and she didn't show up, but her best friend did (they never split up). I am wondering how can I figure out if she has a boyfriend or not, because she "seems" free of one (not one in school). I am on good terms with one of her close friends, but I have only been on these terms for about a month. I also go to a tiny school and I do not want to the entire school to know I like her. What should I do?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
How to find out if she has a boyfriend?
- Thread starter Mycroft
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Docs
Banned
Ok, I want to ask this girl out and I have twice, the first time she said she was going back home to another country, the second time she said NO, so I accepted it as it was
There's a such thing as hints. Did she leave? If she didn't, that was your first hint. Second hint, she flat out said No.
And don't lie, you haven't accepted the no if you're still after her.
In the end, move on. Unless it's been "YEARS", (and it appears this is month(s)), she won't change her mind.
There's a such thing as hints. Did she leave? If she didn't, that was your first hint. Second hint, she flat out said No.
And don't lie, you haven't accepted the no if you're still after her.
In the end, move on. Unless it's been "YEARS", (and it appears this is month(s)), she won't change her mind.
Will do, thanks man. Also, she did leave for around a week.Originally posted by Docs
Ok, I want to ask this girl out and I have twice, the first time she said she was going back home to another country, the second time she said NO, so I accepted it as it was
There's a such thing as hints. Did she leave? If she didn't, that was your first hint. Second hint, she flat out said No.
And don't lie, you haven't accepted the no if you're still after her.
In the end, move on. Unless it's been "YEARS", (and it appears this is month(s)), she won't change her mind.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
there is som truth in what DOCS is saying. especially about the yeats, not months thing. I have tried persistence before, and ended up worse then if I had nexted the girl in the first place.Originally posted by Docs
Ok, I want to ask this girl out and I have twice, the first time she said she was going back home to another country, the second time she said NO, so I accepted it as it was
There's a such thing as hints. Did she leave? If she didn't, that was your first hint. Second hint, she flat out said No.
And don't lie, you haven't accepted the no if you're still after her.
In the end, move on. Unless it's been "YEARS", (and it appears this is month(s)), she won't change her mind.
But if you wait years, then she will most likely have matured, as you will most likely, and you might have a better chance then. As it is, she doesn't give a crap about you.
You had better break off the frienship, and show her you are really after a relationship of a higher level then just friendship. You are setting up yourself for LJBF or a similar variation. And that my friend, is the male kiss of death. Not the end of the world, but pretty close to it as far as that girl is concerned.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yes, I can, and I did, and she has a boyfriend, I found out. No biggy on words and up words.Originally posted by Phat
cant u take no for an answere?